Firecracker Diaries - A combination of stories, random thoughts and an appreciation log of life with Daddy

Daddy
A role taken on by some dominants or tops that mimics that of a parent: the style is likely to be 'kind but firm', perhaps with little deliberate pain-giving or cruelty except in punishment scenes. A gay male daddy's bottom is likely to be called a boy, and though such scenes can be played on a part-time basis the role is as likely to be part of a long-term relationship as with master/mistress-slave. Other sexualities may play this way too, and although the terms mummy (mommy) and girl are used, there are a number of instances of women taking on the male terms in these sorts of relationships.

Daddy is now my favorite term to use with my Love. Being real honest it took me a minute in the beginning to get used to using it. I felt very strange using that term... mostly because of my own father issues. But once I worked it out in my head... its my favorite.

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Dacryphilia
Sexual arousal from seeing tears in the eyes of one's partner.

Another one that I have never heard of. Anyone have this type of fetish?

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Coprophagy - Eating shit.

Or

Coprophilia - Gaining sexual pleasure from playing with shit.

I didn't even know this was a thing...

This is a hard NO for me...

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Cross
A major item of bondage furniture, usually constructed of wood often equipped with extra fixtures, for binding a person, particularly in preparation for flogging and whipping scenes. The familiar straight cross is known as a St George's cross; the X-shaped St Andrew's cross is much more convenient.

We went to a dungeon once that had crosses set up for use. I had never seen one used before. While we were there...I watched one couple use it briefly but then another couple arrived. This couple headed straight for the X cross. They started what I would say was their ritual. I could tell they had done this many times. They were an elderly couple... had to be in their 70's... which made it even more interesting. Under their " street" clothes they both were decked out in leather. The female was in full dominatrix gear and the male was in tight leather chaps that were butt less. Once they were down to the leather, the male put on a blindfold as he kneeled and then was lead to the cross. She then proceeded to whip him with various objects. His erection was impressive... it increased with each lash. Then when she was done... she removed his bindings, had him kneel as she removed the blindfold. She examined him and then helped him dress. He then helped her dress and they left.

I so wanted to stop them and ask so many questions... but I did not...I still wish I had. So intriguing...

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Counting Games
Rituals engaged in during whipping, or spanking, in which the submissive is required to keep count of the number of strokes delivered, often thanking the dominant after each one and asking for more. ie." That's five, Master. Thank you Master. May I have another one harder please."

For me this is the worst part of punishment. I don't like it... but it does keep me in line... because I don't want this part to happen. I really don't know why I don't like it... but I don't.

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Corset
A woman's close-fitting foundation garment use to gather the waist. 

I love the look of corsets...I've never worn one...but I love the way that women look in them....All of them...

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Control Scene
In an SM context, most likely to mean scenes where the top takes control of one or more of the bottom's bodily functions, through the use of techniques like catheterisation, enemas, force-feeding and breath control. Could also include scenes where actions which are normally volitional are closely controlled by the top, either through physical restraint or role play.

The only control scene I have been a part of so far was when Daddy was controlling my orgasm... or should I say the lack there of. I believe this is called edging... and even though during this process its extremely  hard and frustrating... the reward at the end is awesome!!!

Anyone been involved in anything like ones listed above?

Collar and Lead
Some like purpose-made ones in rubber, leather or steel; some like ones made for large dogs but in all cases make sure they are an adequate size so they don't need to be pulled too tight. For symbolic purposes, humiliation, dog play and bondage. Note that wearing a collar may be an indication of a bottom -- and being led round on a lead almost certainly is -- but to some people a collar just symbolizes kinky sex with no indication of role.

Or it could symbolize ownership. I was gifted with a collar at the beginning of our relationship. My collar is precious to me and I wear it non stop... it never comes off. Once I was hospitalized and had to break it off... then it had to be repaired and I was without it for several weeks... it was miserable!! I felt naked and empty without it.

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Codes and Symbols
Numerous codes, signs and symbols are in use in the various subcultures that make up the BDSM community besides the linguistic items that this dictionary attempts to catalog. The best known, although perhaps no longer widely used, is the hanky code for indicating sexual preferences.

What the heck?? There is a secret code and no one ever said anything?? Let me in people...I need to know these things!!! Has anyone ever heard of this? Used it? What's it like?

Give me the deets people!!!

Clitorilingus
Sex involving contact between mouth and clitoris.

I have never heard this term until today... but yes yes yes... however many times I could say yes! This is absolutely one of my favorite things. PS... if your partner is female, be a master at this...and she will eat out of your hand!!!

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