I was reading another blog today and it really got me thinking....why is BDSM such a taboo subject in the vanilla world? If people actually took the time to learn about it I think they would be surprised...
Take myself for example. Before the last couple of years I didn’t really know what it was...I thought I knew...but I didn’t. Here is what I thought...I thought BDSM was all the violent things you might associate it with...slave torture, beatings, strangling, and the complete degradation of women...and everything was built around the Dominants pleasure. I also knew that I wanted a man to be able to control me...that’s what I craved the most...was a man that wanted me like crazy but was not afraid to keep his control. I did not know that that meant I was probably a submissive.
I knew I liked to be “taken” in the bedroom. I knew I liked to please my partner. But in my life before...that was not the case. I had a partner that I could walk all over...and it just turned me off. When you have been turned off for so long...you forget what turns you on!! So I wiped the slate...got out of it and started a life that was mine...and I wanted to live it like I was craving to live.
I’m a dominant person outside of my personal life. I dominate in my friendships and in the way I conduct myself professionally. I need the opposite in my partner...and honestly I was beginning to think what I needed did not exist. I started looking in to this lifestyle and found partners that could turn me on...but could not fulfill my hunger to submit myself...it just didn’t feel right.
Then my Master came along and I immediately felt the need to submit everything to him...to serve him in every possible way. He taught me what a true Master/Slave Dom/Sub relationship should look like. He taught me that BDSM is not only about being open with what you desire and being able to be honest and open about it...but finding a person that can truly understand what you need to be satisfied. Understanding that everyone is different...and understanding that some people want the things I mentioned above...but having communication about everything to better understand each other in all aspects can open your mind, body and soul to true pleasure for yourself and then.
I think that everyone has some sort of deep seeded need to be Dominant, Submissive, Switch, etc. I also think that if the world was more educated on understanding themselves sexually and personally...everyone would be much happier. I mean if we were taught what it all was when we were younger and been able to decide what path we wanted to take...would anybody choose vanilla??? Maybe...but not me.
I’m so thankful for my Dom/Master/Sir/Daddy not only for his guidance, love and life he gives me...but for opening my eyes to what BDSM is and where I fit in. I can truly say that I feel fulfilled and satisfied with my life now...and true pleasure is an understatement.
Until tomorrow....
