i saw this idea on a blog and could not figure out how to get to it to post my response...so here is my response...
from my experience being in a long distance relationship(LDR) and meeting the Dominant here and there in real life. One thing that i have learned is this....
once you have experience playing and your body has had feelings and responses to certain playing.....you can have those same feelings and responses even if you play online with someone. its happened to me. its why at this time im not open to any new play partners. im concerned that with a new person during play my reaction could be triggered and my responses could be the same as when im playing in real life with the Dominant i know would never hurt me.
i find myself going into sub space on my own when i play alone. and so i feel its dangerous for me to have other play partners because i know that i can hit sub space without a warning. and i know that after i squirt or have a number of orgasms that im not physically able to defend myself. and thats completely dangerous.
So if you are contemplating an online relationship and you have already had real life play please know that you can bring up intense feelings and responses just because your body remembers what certain stuff feels like.
but also a word to the wise.....be careful with new play partners....until you know someone really well you need to be able to defend yourself in case something happens. do not put yourself in a dangerous situation. and do NOT allow someone new to tie you up for a while until you learn that they are trustworthy with your life in their hands.
the other issue that concerns me is....if i feel stuff so intensely like this....i am concerned that meeting my Dominant will be fine but will leaving Him when its time to go be so much more intense than the times before? will sub drop be that much more deeper and debilitating?
stay tuned i guess....peace