So.....according to your profile You claim You are an inexperienced Dominant.....im curious....what makes you believe that you are a Dominant? that is ....if You dont mind me asking.....(grinz sweetly)
oh...so...Your answer is- "I like to control others and make them hurt".
Hmmmmm oh okay-
and so You know for sure that you can control someone and make them hurt and ALSO have a meaningful relationship with them?
Your answer is - "well as long as they agree to it."
Ok...so...finding a submissive means that You have found someone close to You in proximity and You have things in common with them right?
So tell me -
once You spend a few hours controlling them and hurting them - do You want them to come back for more? or do You want to throw them away and wait for someone else to come along for You to control and hurt?
(You are silent here and that is okay - take all the time You need to think....and while You are still thinking.....)
as a Dominant do you plan to give a submissive or slave guidance on life with the wisdom you have acquired during your life's experiences???? Will you speak to a young sub and encourage them to put BDSM on a back burner in their life and go get an education? Are you willing to be there when they are stuggling in school and they need positive re-inforcement? Dont you think that enjoying their suffering is worth You being there for them when they need someone?
Some Masters do these things ...maybe even pay a bill here and there....
But.....
a true Master knows how to apply the correct pain that submissives and slaves crave and at times send them into sub space.
(Your answer is - thats nice)
Some Dominants dont just use their subs or slaves for sex and then neglect the sub or slaves needs.
Some Masters work hard at helping their subs or slaves achieve happy meaningful lives for themselves.
And it can take a lot of work but for some Dominants its not just about the sex.
So about experience -
Have You googled and looked for a BDSM group where you live or in the next larger city near You?
You need someone to teach You. ""Being"" a BDSM Dominant is way more than just controlling people or giving them pain. There is a really important reason why pain is used. Do You know why pain is used and how to do it effectively?????
if You "give" the term i prefer is apply, so if you apply pain without knowing how to do it to bring pleasure to your sub or slave they will probably get aggravated with you and never agree to return to play with You again.
Can You understand that? and more importantly do You want that?
Look its Hard to find someone who is a compatable partner to play with that is close enough to be convenient for You.
Once You find someone do you want to make them angry and have them decide not to return?
True Dominant Masters and Mistresses are really great at applying pain that turns into pleasure. That is why they are Masters and Mistresses.....its because they have MASTERED doing what they do.
The only help this Sub will give you is - when you get a chance google runners high and read about it. also read about endorphins...and endorphins and the human body and get a mentor.
pull Your act together and dont You dare take the chance of messing with other folks while they are trying to be serious about BDSM in their life.
