The way it is.

While not always the easiest way, it is the best way....

ahhh, Spring is here!

The Worm Moon & the Vernal Equinox happening within hours of one another is said to bring harmony, balance & cooperation with others.

Things I know I could benefit from whether it be in my day-to-day, work life, home life, etc.. Perhaps we all could.. 

....a powerful card to pull for new beginnings.

I have been doing some thinking over the weekend, also listening to podcasts on sexuality and society and just hanging out on here. Here are some thoughts that have been brewing in my mind..

We are all products of our experiences. Our experiences shape our perspectives on ourselves, others, how we interact with people and the world. 

Experiences that may negatively impact us or experiences that leave positive impressions BOTH help to create the very unique and very beautiful people we are. 

For me, I think there are many reasons why I landed here at the cage several months ago. I am a person who, for  whatever reason, is innately drawn to submission. Thinking of the female gender roles in fairytales, television shows, and movies I was exposed to in my formative years. As I entered into adolescence, the gender roles were reinforced through music videos I watched, as many were a first glimpse into romance and sexuality. 

Anyway, We all got here somehow, the reasons why really don’t matter. But what does matter is that it is something deeply engrained into who we are. Being submissive does not define who I am, it is a part to a whole, of who I am.

When I first joined here, I was not an active member. I felt like a total and complete outsider. I was unsure if I really identified as a submissive woman, if I was a “kinkster”, or if I was simply conjuring up fantasies i thought I would enjoy, but in reality shy away from. What I ended up learning over the past few months is that the unique people that this community represents are rather open and welcoming (so refreshing!!) eager to teach, share, and give sound advice when needed or asked. For me, the cage has unearthed a different version of myself, one that feels safe and not judged by others when sharing personal preferences and desires. The foundation of the site is based around safe, sane, and consensual choices, which encompasses ALL levels and styles of kink...a vast and varied spectrum that falls under the umbrella of ssc. I feel that the pillars of the community are the people, who  in my experience, are very open, nonjudgmental and do not pigeon hole kink as they understand that kink is not a “one-size-fits-all” type of deal. 

People who enjoy BDSM are a sexual minority. I know I don’t broadcast my unique desires when out and about, that’s why I came HERE! I needed an outlet, I needed to feel understood. There are still fantasies and desires that even here, I have not shared. My point here is that in this community I have seen a-lot of understanding and empathetic people who “get” each other on some level of acceptance, non-judgement and openness. I think communities such as this are meant to be safe, a refuge and place of openness so that we can continue to share, explore and evolve..and I think we need each other’s support in our choices and preferences (think ssc) in order to do that. When we have friends in our corner supporting us, the sky is the limit. 😉🙂💕

(photograph: Chip Willis, model: unknown.)

Hi you kinky and beautiful people,

These are a few songs I love and make me feel a little excited for one reason or another. Some from childhood, some more recent. I may or may not have karaoked 75% of these at one point in my life..!!

Hope ya enjoy.

A title can really captivate an audience so now that I’ve got your attention...hehe..

Coming up on 1 year being single. I’ve had a few vanilla dates, some online D/s dabbling...An immeasurable amount of masterbation.

I’m 32, free-spirited, open-minded and have always been afraid of heights..but not when it comes to my standards. Haha.

I want love, passion....a sweet and *magical* power exchange dynamic..with the right man.

I don’t open up normally about sex, feelings, desires..there are several layers to me that protect my very precious and submissive core.

..I also don’t want to be married. The thought of sex with one person, for. The. Rest. Of. My. Life....honestly..makes me sad...And honestly... makes me sad that I feel that way.

I’m unconventional, a dreamer, a hard worker, and always, always evolving. 

My family, my friends, and my co-workers are basically all married or in monogamous relationships. I listen and lend a laugh when they complain about their significant other. They listen, and lend a laugh when I complain about my lack there of. It’s polite, it’s fake...we know we are making each other feel comfortable about our differences. But what I want is a real conversation.

I truly am very happy for the people in my life that I am different from. I mean, they have something that fulfills them and makes them happy. It is what I want too, only it looks a little different. Also, I’m very satisfied and happy with myself in the meantime. I own my own home, I’m providing for my family. I’m not egotistical, I’m proud! I see a lot of friends dating, then getting married but what I don’t see is passion..and at times, To those very people, i feel like I need to explain, validate or reassure that Im ok (being single). I think I realize we just have different values, and I’m good with that. It’s ok to wait. It’s ok to experience. It’s ok to say no, again and again. It’s ok to be exactly who I am. And it’s great to finally understand  that. 😊

I just listened to a podcast on sexuality and society that discussed the various ways in which sexuality has been controlled throughout history. Have you heard this quote before, “Everything is about sex, except sex, that’s about power” ?(Oscar Wilde is said to be the author of this quote, although it has been disputed).

I don’t personally agree with this quote entirely, not everything is about sex!! BUT I do believe that sex plays a very big role in the way in which we perceive ourselves, how others perceive us and ultimately can be very powerful in our lives. I think we assign certain roles to ourselves and others based around our sexuality. 

The podcast mentioned various ways throughout history to present day in which our sexuality has been controlled...

Cleopatra being forced to marry brothers in order to keep the power in the family...

Homosexual couples have been unable to marry lawfully or adopt children..The power of the law shutting out the ability for people to live, love and start families the way they wish.

It also mentioned the illegalization of abortion. (Which is left for each person to interpret personally, as it is a very personal topic). 

The idea of power and sex has fascinated me for as long as I can remember thinking about sex...I consider myself to be new to the lifestyle (with minimal, although profound experience). I’m really just grasping my understanding, opinions and desires and how i fit into the complex and varied bdsm scene. 

And I definitely believe there is a correlation between power and sex that exists in both vanilla and bdsm lifestyles.

...I’m not sure when, how or why I became sexually attracted to power. But I do know that it is deeply rooted in who I am. Initially, when I joined this site I was very confident (I thought) in the fact that I strictly wanted D/s in the bedroom, not to be carried over into other aspects of my life. But I am learning that my submission is much deeper than that. I enjoy the fantasies I have of pleasing a Dom in other ways..I feel like I really am a sub at heart and that I’m really just discovering the tip of the iceberg.

The first time I heard this song a little over a year ago I couldn’t get in out of my brain. It’s so good! Speaks D/s sexy, sexy feels to me!

My dominant is a Musician.

When he’s my Daddy it’s a lullaby he sings. Each word I linger on soothing my anxious mind and relaxing my body.

If he’s sadistic, a snake charmer he will be. entrancing me with his motions, I am hypnotized by his sound. I dance and sway obediently to his music.

A maestro, he excels at his art. Highly revered and respected. Creating a masterpiece with the guide of his strong hand. His dominance an art form, playing beautifully. he gives his gift so naturally. His ability awes all. 

His favorite instrument, my mind, he plays so delicately, Caressing each and every key. And then he strokes my body, carefully paying attention to the pitch he creates. He is never off-key.

Currently no Dom, waiting patiently to find one who can make me feel all of this.

Terry Rodgers is a local artist who’s had numerous exhibits throughout the states and Europe.

His paintings are inspired by a “fantasy culture” of individuals who outwardly appear to lead one specific lifestyle while inwardly they are something else entirely.  

When I was 19 years old, walking on college campus, an energetic and quirky older man stopped me, telling me he’s an artist and that he’d like for me to pose as an art model for his painting. 

I know what you’re thinking..‘I’ve seen this Dateline...it didn’t end well’.

Disheveled hair, wrinkled clothing and no business card, he wrote his website on a torn piece of notebook paper and we went our separate ways.

Driven by curiosity and a glass of wine I googled his website. Looking over each page, this specific painting really caught my attention... Igniting a tiny flame, I believe.

And so I posed for the painting. 

The Lunar Effect

Scientifically proven or...complete BS?

Either way, it’s fun to think about.

Do you notice changes in your own behavior, your loved ones, even your pets?! 

Studies have examined the possible correlation between cray cray behavior (crimes, injuries, etc.) increasing during a Full moon. I read an article that stated cat owners are sent to ER’s (for cat bites, scratches, etc.) more frequently during a full moon cycle than any other time.

Ut oh..lots of Kitty’s and Kittens here😻

Might make for some fun punishment 🙀

(image: Terry Rodgers)