The way it is.

The Strawberry Moon

In the past year, I have found myself becoming more and more drawn to nature and especially the different types of moons and solstices. I like the idea of  practicing moon rituals that were so sacred to native people who created them and turning inward to focus on how we can use the shift in the universe to manifest positive changes and growth in ourselves. 

Yes, I realize these rituals *may* not have the capacity to actually change anything at all. It is my personal opinion that we as individuals have the strength and ability to manifest personal growth, I just like the idea of using something so beautiful and powerful, like the Moon, as a reinforcement or symbol to help create the change I wish to see in myself.

"The Strawberry Moon (also known as the Honey Moon, Mead Moon, or Full Rose Moon) got its name from the Algonquin tribes in eastern North America who saw it as a signal that it was time to harvest the wild strawberries in their landscape. More broadly, its proximity to the summer solstice (June 21) enhances the energy of personal development and achievement, like a "high point" in the astrological calendar."If you can dream it, you can do it. That is the message that the universe is beaming down on you right now, so absorb these positive vibes and activate your deepest desires and ambitions. It’s a time to let your daydreams totally off-leash and see where they take you. Don’t project your internal anxieties or doubts onto someone else–most importantly, yourself!
Where in the world do you most want to go? What do you most want to do? Even quickly journaling everything that immediately comes to mind can help you hone in on what you most care about, and take steps to pursue your wildest #goals." - suggestions from the internet (like my awesome citation skills?)

also...this! 

The Astrological Explanation Behind Love Triangles
A fun lil’ Strawberry Moon part-aaaaay might be just the way to fix this, though. Which signs are most impacted?

The four mutable star signs–Sagittarius, Gemini, Virgo *me*, and Pisces–are likely to feel this Moon’s influence the most.

You're good at instigating change and handling life’s twists and turns, so use that gift to help others do the same.
Each of these signs emerge at the end, or changing, of a season (Gemini-Spring; Virgo- Summer; Sagittarius-Fall, Pisces-Winter.) As such, mutable signs are ALL about change. This can make them come across as inconsistent and uncommitted (very much me!), but also flexible and intuitive (also, me!). This moon speaks to their inner character, to the need and appetite for continual change. If you’re one of these signs, then use the super-charged vibes of the next day or so to clarify your biggest, wildest dreams and believe that they are NOT out of reach. -more words from the internet

joining a dating app while horny is the equivalent of grocery shopping on an empty stomach.

i will regret these ‘swipes’ later.

its a vanilla dating app too 😬 please send good thoughts my way 😜😂

If you ask what any woman may want:

a Mirror and a Lamp

Someone who can gently, but truthfully show her her reflection

but also illuminate her

A pearl goes up for auction

No one has enough

So the pearl buys itself

                                          - Rumi

Hello beautiful, sexy, wonderful and kinky friends and strangers 💕

What is your definition of spirituality?

(this blog post is partially inspired by a forum post a while back regarding spirituality and BDSM).

I understand that the concept of spirituality varies from person to person. I also understand that spirituality and religion are not mutually exclusive. You may experience or hold strong beliefs in both, neither, or one or the other.

spirituality to me is the feeling of “oneness” or intense connection. This connection creates a temporary feeling of a higher state of existence and it can manifest in many ways.

My real life examples:

Giving birth to a child and experiencing pure and intense love and connection.

Pushing my body during a race (I used to be a runner), the runners high and elated happiness you can receive after pushing your body to its limit.

Yoga is spiritual to me as it creates a fluid connection between my mind and body and calms the relentless chatter inside my brain.

Traveling to different cities or countries (especially when traveling alone) and fully immersing myself into the culture and beliefs, living in the moment is one of the greatest feelings I have ever experienced. I have never felt more connected to our earth and the community of individuals in it.

all of these examples are near and dear to my heart. But what about in BDSM? Does spirituality exist in a D/s relationship?

In my (somewhat seldom) experiences, the answer is yes! It is absolutely present. And in my personal opinion and experiences I would say that submissives would more easily and readily feel the essence of spirituality during a play session when they slip into subspace. A D/s bond can be a very deep and meaningful connection. Both members contributing efforts, knowing that the partner doesn’t simply want or expect this but that they need and crave it. When my needs and cravings are satisfied I feel a connection (sense of oneness) and calmness, with my mind, body and partner.

my needs and cravings were being met (to an extent) but just recently were take away, cold turkey 😬And it has inspired me to write on the topic. Dominants please be gentle and cognizant that the role you play in the life of those who submit to you is probably more deep and meaningful than you realize.💕

Do you like music? 

Good music?

do you like the music that reminds you of the innocence and care free nature of your adolescence?

music resets me. Changes my mood entirely..Uplifts me when I’m feeling low, energizes me when I’m feeling weak, brings me close to a lost loved one. Or..easily takes me away, as an escape from the day to day. 

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_mXL1vWBr2I3rRctweCZ2FChj1e5SrP8Is

my Mom used to play one song while I was a young child, another I discovered while flying the friendly skies, one reminds me of my dad, and the other..is what I want my next love to feel like

the evolution of my submission  thus far has really been eye opening. 

I didnt realize how submissive I really am and how far or deep it can go. It takes someone really unique and special to make me want to open myself up.

i love the openness, the willingness, the breath of fresh air to my submissive soul. The way my heart and pussy throb in sync to your deserving dominance.

i never wanted to cum like the girls in the videos. So fake. When I cum, I shout thank you. From my quaking legs to my aching heart. My submission is Your work of art. 

I do not struggle in your web, because it was my aim to get caught,

But Daddy longlegs, I feel I’m finally growing weary of waiting to be consumed by you 

Photograph: Chip Willis

Regarding messages sent to females (this female more specifically)

my “hard no” limits on messaging:

1. If your initial message is 3 words long. 😕

2. If your initial message is 3 words long and they are spelled incorrectly. 😬

3. If your nickname, message title, message itself mentions your dick and/or dick size. 👋

4. If the bulk of your initial message contains information about kink or fetishes. Is your boner typing or are you? Yes, we are on a BDSM website. I personally do not wish to dish out the skinny of what I’m into to every Dom I meet/chat with.  

5. If your initial message contains a photo that suggests you may currently be residing in your vehicle. I understand we all have hard times. But go ahead and put the keys in the ignition and head the opposite direction bc I personally enjoy a man with a residence. 

6. Unless you come Pinot Grigio, please do not tell me you can “own me”. It just is not going to happen!

...the messages that I love are the ones I receive that feel genuine...

asking a a specific question about something I wrote in a forum, blog or on my profile..

taking time to to share information about yourself as a person, and asking me questions about myself.

I love to hear from someone who is  just genuinely inquisitive, interested or willing to share about themselves (vanilla parts, I want to know you as a person, then may feel comfortable/interested in sharing more details).

Looking back on memories from just one year ago can sometimes take my breath away. It’s amazing how one small choice can instantaneously change the course of your life, your families’ future... perhaps even your outlook on life and who you are. 

For as long as I can remember, I have had a recurring dream about walking up a seemingly never ending stairway. Sometimes I am walking with friends, as we continue up, they always pass me by, my legs grow tired, I cannot keep up. Other times I am walking alone, I get distracted. Even at times I am on my hands and knees, crawling step by step fighting with all that’s in me to get to the next level. 

It can be so difficult to feel satisfied with where you are at in life. The status or respect that may possibly be awaiting you if you just push yourself a little further, even if that means pushing beyond your capacity.

I used to to believe that a relationship I was in would help me reach where I needed to be. That final step to the stairway. I thought I could be empowered by it. I now realize just how wrong I was. In order to become “empowered”, I must originally have no power, it must be given to me. I took the power. I ended the relationship exactly one year ago. I haven’t had a stairway dream since. I am powerful, by myself. Funny how it took breaking away from what I thought I wanted to figure out I already have exactly what I need.