The way it is.

The complications and triumphs of a sub living in a Dom’s world

Connection

5 years ago. October 10, 2019 at 12:54 AM

Finding a suitable connection in D/s has to be one of the most difficult types of human connection to find!

thinking of friendship connections: you connect over things you have in common, humor, interests.

family connections: made at birth (if you’re a parent), connections with your siblings and parents can be more difficult but there is the underlying bond created through shared memories and experiences.

work connections: if you are a professional, you connect through discussions of your career, common goals or venting over the bad parts of the work day.

D/s connections: This is the most intense a deep connection I have personally experienced. And it’s so difficult to find! For me, I need to find someone to stimulate me intellectually, make me laugh, make me feel safe and secure, and cum..hard. And the list goes on and on...

Dom’s and Subs currently in relationships: how did you find each other? Was the connection immediate or did it take time to build and nurture? I love hearing positive stories about this type of relationship!

TakenLower - Instant here, and slowly growing over about a year and a half. We have had our problems too but at the end of the day we’re also really good friends. I think to have anything that will last there has to be a good foundation with some commonalities.

5 years ago

Lotus(sub female) - I figure when I find my guy it will be an instant connection, as well. I can tell in any type of relationship within the first few minutes whether or not I’m going to connect with that person. Happy to hear you’ve found a good match! Thanks for sharing 🙂

5 years ago

venia(sub female){notlooking} - There was definitely an instant connection, which just keeps getting stronger and deeper the more time we spend together. I don’t know that I have any advice as to finding the right person. He seemed to fall out of the sky, and I am supremely happy that he did. I hope you find your someone special to share that connection with soon. 💜

5 years ago

Lotus(sub female) - Thanks, Venia! I think my challenge lays in that I personally find it hard to gauge authenticity online. And have been on vanilla dates over this past summer; all ended well but I really just didn’t personally feel a strong interest or connection. I have high standards - as we all should!!!

5 years ago

venia(sub female){notlooking} - I definitely feel your pain. And I agree, we should have high standards and not settle. I still pinch myself daily.

5 years ago

Lotus(sub female) - I always appreciate your positivity and support for other subs! I’m happy you found a great connection 💜

5 years ago

venia(sub female){notlooking} - 💜💜💜

5 years ago

Hisproclivity(sub female) - My first D I met on The Cage-- more gradual. My current Dom it was instant and we met on a dating website! My current Dom and the connection we share I have never shared with another.

5 years ago

Lotus(sub female) - That’s awesome, sounds like what I need!

5 years ago

Hisproclivity(sub female) - You will get there girl!

5 years ago

Master C's toy(sub female){Chevy} - I've had the pleasure of submitting to 3 Dominant partners in 24/7 dynamics over a 29 year period, these 3 were gradual. Met spent time together and the dynamic slowly grew into some great experiences which taught me a great deal. My Master whom I serve with every part of my being was an immediate connection from the moment we met. I knew as I drove away from him that I would belong to him. Our connection is not just M/s, it is a deep trusting and understanding friendship as well. We are still learning and growing, so the bond, if not severed by vanilla life, will only get stronger.

5 years ago

Belladonna Dreams(sub female){Phage'Hada} - I met my first dom at work. It was. Fast connection and slow to fade but his other sub kinda help with that.
I met my current dom on here. We both agree it was a fast connection and its one neither of us can explain as to why we are so drawn together.

4 years ago

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Lotus​(sub female)

The way it is.

Connection

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