HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat}

Enter the Void

Ramblings and musings of a fox who is struggling to pull herself together and regain the confidence that was once broken and stripped from her. Will most likely be nothing more than a mind dump when things are getting rough.

Irritated.

4 years ago. November 8, 2020 at 5:07 PM

So tired of people not respecting me and my profiles on sites.

I have it stated as loud and clear on my profile that I am ONLY here to learn, and make friends. I don't want to hook up, be dominated/dominate people, fuck around. I just want to learn. So I can discover myself, and grow. I also have my partner's name attached to mine, hoping to further drive home the point of, I'm already with someone, leave me alone.

Yes, poly is a thing, but my point still remains - read profiles before messaging people. Because I also state I'm in a monogamous, closed marriage.

People CONSTANTLY message me without two seconds of respect to check my profile and make sure that, ya know, I actually want to be propositioned. Or I'd be okay with it. And I'm tired of it. I'm tired of being disrespected and treated like I'm just some... Thing, for people to use.

So when I get these messages, I'm very to the point and blunt. I don't go out of my way to be mean, but you can only be so nice when telling someone they're being rude and ignoring what you've put out there to answer their question before its asked. But I'M the mean one. For telling them they don't read or telling them no because they're disrespectful.

They're not at all mean or rude for coming onto me even though I have it VERY OBVIOUSLY STATED that I don't want that. No, not at all.

A lot of times I even get people playing the victim card.

YOU came to ME and disrespected me. Nah, you're not the victim here because I told you no.

Especially not when I get two or three FURTHER messages clearly trying to guilt me into feeling bad and letting them serve me. Or even worse, the pricks who dare to say, "But I can take care of you better than your partner could".

Fuck. You.

Why is disrespect so RAMPANT online? I'm so tired of it.

DomJayy(dom male) - Fully agree with this post !!! So many ruin it for people

4 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - Definitely. If it were only once in a while it'd be annoying but not really an issue. But it's so exhausting to think, "Oh, hey, someone wants to talk!" and then BAM! "Will you be my Mistress?"

4 years ago

TheWhorelock(dom male) - No matter what I say in an ad online because of my thumbnail I get at least one offer from a sub offering for me to make free use of them. Despite the fact my ad clearly states demisexuality. Despite long articulation of a desire for personal intimacy and to go deep in actually caring for one another. There’s always a few who just... don’t listen.

And I’m a dude. I can only imagine it’s 100x worse as a woman.

There’s just a percentage of the population that is completely blind to the effects they have when they make rude objectifying requests online. If we appeal to them in our thumbnail then they hit send, and it has nothing to do with who we are.

4 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - As a Demisexual myself, I *totally* get that. No one ever seems to understand how our minds work haha, and how serious we are when we explain how we feel and what we want/desire. It's so insanely frustrating to have people ignore what's put out there. Sorry you're dealing with it too :T It can be so exhausting. And I appreciate your comment and understanding of the frustrations.

4 years ago

DomJayy(dom male) - I fully agree most females I feel get the worst of it on here which is such a shame

Female subs especially have it rough from my experience chatting to people on here! It doesn’t matter if they are in a dynamic or not and the moment they join Boom the messages fly in telling them how they are owned now for talking to them and how they lucky to have been contacted by them 🙄🙄

4 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - Yes, oh goodness do I feel bad for the female subs here. Some have shown me the extent of their harassment from people not at all understanding how this works, and I feel so bad for them. Those messages just anger me, they're even more disrespectful imo and I so badly wanna tear into them for harassing these poor subs haha.

4 years ago

shahh - Exactly. Appreciate a man that understands this. It was far easier to just remove the descriptor in my profile. Immediately screened out about 9/10 of the garbage coming in because the assholes don't see people...they see a label.

4 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - I've been thinking more and more that I'm going to remove the "Dom" thing from my name. See if that helps. I worry that'll instead bring a bunch of Doms being like, "On your knees!", but, hey, at this point I'm being harassed enough anyway, I don't think it could hurt.

People are dumb and inconsiderate.

4 years ago

shahh - You'll definitely get those comments as well... It'll be never ending. I just ignore the trash and move on. Try not to let idiots affect your mood or wonderfulness.

4 years ago

proudbbw - Girl, good luck.. it never stops, especially with you being a Domme. We are apparently rare to find so regardless what the profile says, they have it in their head that maybe they can be persuasive enough, regardless if they are disrespecting the profile or ur current situation.

4 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - Mmhmm. It's so dumb. I keep thinking I'll get used to it but, nah, they keep getting more and more ridiculous and it's exhausting haha. I just don't get it. It doesn't take that much effort to click on a name and check quick, but, that doesn't benefit them and that's the biggest issue. Instant gratification, that's all they care about.

4 years ago

LaVieEnRose(sub female){Kintsugi} - People are ass noodles, I don’t get as many messages as I used to but when I did I most definitely used to get very tired of the ridiculous messages. I definitely used to get snarky and when they’d get all butt hurt I’d just virtually pat them on the head and send them on their way!

4 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - Yes! I try so hard to not be rude or anything 'til they start it. Some people are new and don't realize that's in bad taste, some aren't as good at social interactions, some might not mean anything by it. But once they do anything other than, "Oh, okay," or, "Sorry, my bad" or something and leave me alone, the gloves come out. And then especially when they go to the levels this last DM did, I give up on playing nice. You don't wanna play nice? Neither will I haha.

4 years ago

KittyisWatching(sub female){Protected} - *pokes at Foxy Fox* I most definitely respect your dynamic...I'm just a big flirt. I promise I mean absolutely nothing by it. It's just the way I talk to everyone.

4 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - Haha you're fine hun <3 Wolfy can be pretty big flirt as well so I get that :P You're respectful though and that's what matters! And I appreciate it <3

4 years ago

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HuntertheYeenQueen​(dom femme){Allie Kat}

Enter the Void

Irritated.

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat}