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Ill

4 years ago. January 11, 2020 at 6:44 PM

So I have been ill, not been well. I usually tell people that I am not well, but in fact I have been ill. Being ill is not really the same as not being well. I tell people that I am not well because, when you are ill a lot of the time, you have to be careful what you say to people. When you have a chronic Illness you have to be very careful how you relate to other people. Some people just find you boring, whirl others feel that they have to look after you. Once people start looking after you, that is all they do. Very few people can be a friend, or a lover, and a carer at the same time.

 

But sometimes when I am ill, this time, whirl I was ill I got kind of angry because no one came around and offered to do some shopping or whatever for me. But I am lucky in a way because no one treats me like I am ill, in fact I have to remind them that I am ill.

 

Then there is the Aspergers. People with Aspergers, or anywhere on the spectrum have difficulty communicating with others, so maybe I am lucky to have a few friends, but I still wonder, when I am ill why does no one come around or even phone, and those that do just tell me not to sleep during the day, and I do not see why, of cause because then I can not sleep at night, but ill people sleep. It is a big part of what ill people do, just every one thinks that I should not do it.

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - Take care of you. And yes there are different kinds of being ill. And many say what they think is the best information they can relay. Cold and flu broth, tea and water. But when it comes to things they don't understand it's hard to comprehend what to say. Hugs my friend.
4 years ago
SweetSirRendering​(sub female) - Comment deleted by poster.
4 years ago
SweetSirRendering​(sub female) - my son has aspergers. he is the best!

this is what i would say to him, if he asked me.

people like to give advice. you are autonomous and don’t have to take it or agree :) it is just how people react. look for what can be useful to you and leave the rest (like looking a corpse in a game) ;).

as a mum, i will mum you right now and say, of course, when you are ill, sleep when you need to sleep as much as you can! day and (or) night if you can miss work!!!!! and drink lots of fluids!!!! as far as someone taking care of me, only if they too are ill would i accept this, otherwise i stay away or keep others away as i would not want to wish illness on others even if i really don’t want to make my own soup or go to the store.

if my D were ill and i was not, i’d drop a care package on his patio and run. as adults we mostly do sick alone :(.

typically i have to care for my son while sick as it usually happens at the same time (he is 16 now ). it isn’t lack of caring or consideration that others stay away, we are programmed to avoid illness like, well, like the plague :) <3

please rest as much as possible, if your fever gets too high, take a cool bath and remove some covers even if it sucks so bad you cry. take medicine to relive the symptoms even if you hate it like me. nothing sucks more than being sick alone at the ER, so keep that fever down! :) take care!

- mum out :)
4 years ago
SweetSirRendering​(sub female) - correctly a typo:

*like LOOTING a corpse in a video game lol
4 years ago
Justme26 - I don't have a fever, or anything that anyone could catch. Mostly just fatigue and muscle pain, and nothing anyone could catch, but thanks to both of you for your input.
4 years ago

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