This topic is a very emotional one for me, but very serious. Just a year or so ago, maybe not even that long ago, I knew nothing of what I really had to offer. I felt worthless as a person and a submissive. I felt like people would push me and maybe they were right and I was wrong because I had no worth. That, friends,... Luckily has changed. I am confident, bold, and special. I know I have a lot to offer... No one can take that from me.
Talking with others, Doms and subs.. Over the time I have been here and online in general I have realized there are so many people who want to rush. Rush, rush, rush. Push, push, push. Why? Because society has set us up this way. It's easy to go places and get instant gratification. Often we want it sooo bad, we just feel we need to push a little more and we might get what we want.
Friends, please don't be pressured. Please don't feel pushed. KNOW you are worth the wait. If you aren't ready say No. If that isn't accepted... Then they aren't really interested in the first place. Someone who is interested in you for the RIGHT reasons will be patient. I always said I'd never be a pusher... People pushed me and I found myself in a place where I was so in love with someone... I felt I needed to push when they said they weren't ready. I didn't listen and I should have. In retrospect, I did a lot of blaming for this, that, and the other... But I wanted it so bad I pushed and ended up ultimately pushing someone I loved very much away. So on the flip side... If you feel like you need to push someone, take a step back please. Remember, no matter how much you want something, if someone isn't ready and they tell you that, they mean it. Be patient. Be there. Be gentle.
Remember today... You are unique, you are beautiful, and you are special... Don't let anyone tell you any different.
-Ds