My journey

Devilsoul​(switch male) - I’m my experience submission is earned not taken. Any Dominant that demands it without building trust and foundations is fake and should be avoided. A true D/S dynamic is reaching new limits together and trusting your Dominant to guide you though it and care for you after.

Devotedsub​(sub female){His} - Thank you very much Devilsoul. I very much agree with your comment.

Sculpther​(dom male) - The bdsm dynamic is the product of interaction between two people with divergent yet similar goals.

Interaction can spark a relationship that will result in a Dom/sub dynamic.

The dynamic takes shape after a period of time passes during which the submissive determines the worthiness of the Dom to receive the gift of submission.

A gift that is given too freely has no value. Ownership that is not earned is theft.

There are no short cuts, you would not marry someone you don't know, you should not submit to someone you don't know either.

Put in the effort, then reap the rewards.

Forced submission is kidnapping or abuse. Never, ever acceptable, under any circumstances.

Just my opinion

Devotedsub​(sub female){His} - Beautifully written comment Sculpther. I agree. It takes time for two in any relationship to get to know one another. And in a D/s dynamic specifically, as time passes, she determines whether the Dom is worthy of her submission or not. It is a gift. I think many I have spoken to think this means the Dom is not important. It definitely means just the opposite. If he is worthy of her submission, he is #1. He is of utmost importance. Submission shouldn't be forced,... If it is... It isn't real, true, and imo it is meaningless. And it is also abusive of the Dominant to assert such force.

Thank you very much for such an insightful comment.

Belladonna Dreams​(sub female){Phage'Hada} - Earned. Forced breaks the person

Sculpther​(dom male) - Breakage is never ok, surrender is the goal. loving, devoted, exclusive surrender. Voluntary surrender is the gift of submission.