My Journey

kikimmy​(sub female){Feral brat} - Don't give up, it's hard to go through but when you meet your person none of it will matter.

Truemasterkai - It's a very human thing and something most, if not everyone wants. But I think the idea of someone being just out there and meant for us is a detrimental one. On one hand, it implies that should we have such an encounter, it had nothing to do with the work, passion, suffering and progress we had undergone to make it to this point. They were simply meant for us. And on the other hand, if we do not find anyone, we are faced with the soul crushing possibility that we are truly unique in our isolation and have been denied something everyone else supposedly has.

The truth is that to meet and then connect with someone, it will take a lot of work, failure and tempering of our approaches and mindsets. And it happens easier for some than others. Sometimes, it doesn't happen at all. Though for the people who make an examined effort, it usually will. And to doubt yourself is a normal part of the process.

To the point about pain, we can safely assume that no matter how compatible you are with someone, they will eventually hurt you in some way. The degree and reasoning always vary but its apart of the human experience. No relationship is ever 100% bliss. Consider who is it worth hurting for and with, rather than who will not hurt you.

Best of luck.

SubSided​(sub female) - Why are the two mutually exclusive?
Can't you yearn, need and locate "the One" And compromise to adapt to changing needs?

Isn't our "One" the ideal of transparent communication?

The Kinky Poet​(other male) - Sending hugs across the void
Stay strong know your worth, never settle for 2nd best
BE STRONG BE BEAUTIFUL AND BE YOU
Love and light T.K.P x

Spanks hard​(dom male){Looking } - Soaringfree I feel the same way as you do and I truly feel like stepping away from the bdsm lifestyle for good to never return. Each time I strike up a conversation with a potential submissive or slave girl and things begin to look up it fizzled out I hope that you find someone special soon. Spanks hard