She’s not willing to submit to just anyone that simply calls themselves Dominant. For some people, to be Dominant is like going to an exhibition or convention. Walk into the room, throw on a name badge, insert the Dominant title, assume the role.
To those described above, Dominance is just role play and nothing more. Not because they don’t want it to be more. Simply because they don’t understand it, nor feel it, therefore it cannot naturally occur within them and as a result, the nuances that occur with the exchange of power cannot transfer across to another. For some it’s just a mask they put on for a temporary period, during sessions or sexual play.
If they can’t feel it as the Capital in the slash, I guarantee you that the submissive cannot feel it.
As a submissive, she wants so much more than to just submit. She wants to feel owned. To feel secure. To feel overwhelmed with emotional attachment that drives her need to submit. To serve. To pleasure. To service her Dominant.
She wants to feel the richness found in a dynamic. A richness that is rare, exquisite and beautiful in formation. She thrives on the structure that naturally flows through that dynamics power exchange.
Some would be Dominants will try to force their submissive to be a filthy little whore. With a natural energy flow found within the beauty of a D/s dynamic, she should feel the need to want to be your whore, not be forced to be one. Her submission is about giving you her entirety.
It should never be about resisted force of mental or physical. Resistance occurs when comfort zones no longer exist and limits are breached. Force in kink is about the ebb and flow of power, as he takes what she willingly wants to give.
To make her feel like a rag doll, yet still secure enough to feel significant, protected, respected and cared for. Force in kink is about being in tune with the other party and pushing boundaries to elicit a mixture of fear and lust.
To bring her to life inside, knowing what’s coming, but not knowing how it will be delivered. To make her want to feel you physically and mentally Dominate and control her. To take her power, without her even realising it.
To whisper an order and she succumbs to the need to fulfil that task in effort to please you, no matter the level of comfort or discomfort she feels while completing that task. All that matters to her is completing it and fulfilling your desires. To service you as she serves you.
She needs to feel owned, in order to give you her all and her everything…
