Kup's korner

L a r s​(dom male) - Good on both of you for being mature about it.

No experience with this otherwise. The only significant others I have really had have been met on sites like this, so kink was not the issue. Distance was.
However, after a lot of consideration, I do believe I would be upfront about my kinks early in the relationship, just because I don't know if I could be fully satisfied not exploring that side of me.

Good luck finding a compatible fella

SageFlame​(sub female) - My first marriage was 11 years to a man who had little experience. I was actually his second sexual experience. I needed a lot more than he but said nothing. I tried to encourage excitement and play but it was like trying to inflate a ball with a hole in it.

He tried to spank me but never hard enough and didn't take the time to learn how. He blind folded me and tied me up to see what it was like but there was no creative energy., it too was flat.

I married young and with a history of staying under the radar and making others happy. So I did what I knew.

I buried it.

Though I found fulfillment in being a stay at home mom, but I was never sexually satisfied. In the end, I realized it was emotional intimacy that I craved. This cannot be achieved through sex. Ha! Whatyaknow.

OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} - I have revealed kinks that were not so much rejected, as ignored or attempted, but not with enthusiasm. I think that may be worse. Lol. I was in a 12 year relationship as well, very vanilla, but what is worse was the lack of communication. There was no ability to express desires. So they were suppressed. I fell into my role, which was essentially being a low drama partner, but it eventually led to his wandering eye. When all I wanted was the conversation, they just didn't know how to have it, instead they just thought to try and find it on the other side of the fence. Unfortunate that kink could have saved it, but humiliation smothered it. I was very happy to find myself and move out of that environment.

In my current scenario, when my kinks don't match my partners, it is not the end of the world. Nothing will be perfectly in sync. And not every want I have needs to be materialized. It is about existing together, it is what I love about BDSM, sharing my intimate space, body and mind with that one who wants to also share with me. That means I don't get the entire cookie, but each bite tastes so much sweeter.

HEAVEN'S STARCHILD​(switch female) - I expressed my interests to my now ex. He wasn't interested at all. He tried to show his support for me. It just didn't work out for either of us especially when I got a gf. It bruised his ego ALOT. There was alot.of drama after that. But now we're friends and co parent and I still have my gf with a couple.of extras 😊

MasterDomDok​(sadist male){you?} - Wandering into the vanilla world as a totally perverted dom has done nasty things to my self esteem down the decades. The BS the day-to-day world shoves around about how bad we are who don't conform really fucks things up for us with alternative psyches.

Mister B​(dom male) - My ex wife didn't take too well to me explaining that I had needs that were not particularly vanilla. It was the judgement and utter disdain for me that was difficult to deal with. I understand if one party says it not for them and the relationship ends but to judge someone for being a little different when we all have our kinks (sexual or otherwise) shows a real lack of respect for the other.