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4 years ago. August 31, 2019 at 1:04 PM

so , we have a sitter for my son that is a good friend of my wife’s. She has a bit of psychological issues: ptsd, she blacks out at times for no reason, and the people she finds to be mates have been less than stellar. 

 

So; my wife got a phone call from her at around 9:30 pm, pretty late for the sitter to call. My wife calls back and gets a “muffled Caucasian woman” who said “you have the wrong person.” But they stayed on the line, my wife had me call. “You guys have the wrong person.” Awkward silence. Okay, in the moment it was like well that’s weird. My wife texted the sitter, no response till the morning when well that’s odd I’ll tell my dad and see what he thinks.

talking to mentor about it, then it dawns on me. WHAT IF this person was a alternate personality of our sitter? And she’s got DID? It all adds up, and makes a lot of sense. 

 

Other options include: she’s experimenting with women, that was her lover. That’s her transexual friend Simon. She went to a party, blacked out , someone messing with us. Someone hyjacked her line.

 

little dude loves “yaya” but if she could potentially turn into someone else or black out. We gotta get to the bottom of it.

tell me what do you guys think? 

MsHaven​(dom female) - I think she needs good friends like you but should never be left solely in charge of your child if you have any concerns. It’s just not worth it.
4 years ago
Bigandtall​(other male) - Continue being there for your friend BUT don't let her babysit! I todays world if she accidentally hurts, or neglects your son it could very well come back on you!
Still, be supportive of her because she needs good friends like you and your wife!
4 years ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female) - Crazy idea but if she's a 'good friend' of your wife and you've obviously trusted her enough to leave your kid with her even knowing about the issues why not knock off the amateur psycho-analysis and talk to her. Try 'hey, we love you and care about you and have noticed x,y,z....is there something we can help you with?'. The kind part of that is that you've already broached it if the two of you decide that the risk of an impaired person watching your baby isn't worth the reward.
4 years ago
Wiseonthree​(dom male) - Never said we wouldn’t, I’m just sharing a interesting occurance that seems creepy to me. We both love her, ideally we just wanna make sure she knows if she doesn’t, or she understands if she doesn’t.
4 years ago
Satindragon - I agree with Henna. If she truly is a friend you need to talk to her about these weird things. She may not be aware of. Then both you and your wife encourage her to seek PROFESSIONAL help. Plus advise her until she does you guys are going to use another sitter.
4 years ago
Dellydoodah​(neither female) - I think you're nuts to leave your child with her
4 years ago
Wiseonthree​(dom male) - I did not know of half of these psychological issues until just this week. Perhaps it is my wife that is nuts.
4 years ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female) - Perhaps...
4 years ago
Satindragon - Perhaps you are both a little nuts. Any of those occurrences would have raised huge red flags where my children were concerned. Friend or no friend she would have never been left alone with my child.
4 years ago
Wiseonthree​(dom male) - This was just this last week, I am taking the adequate steps to better the safety of my child. Do not assume I am crazy due to the fact I had lack of information and knowledge of a interwoven issue that seemingly I was unaware of due to lack of communication. This is the way it is in my marriage, when the shit hits the fan I take action cause I don’t mess around.
4 years ago
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } - Lol sorry. But lack of communication takes two. She didnt tell you and you didnt ask. .
Your fault as much as anyones. There are signs or things that dont seem righ( those are red flags in any situlation .)
And all this goes to show me really is how you are .more of a dadt type person in everything. Which in my book is wrong everywhere ESPECAILLY when it comes to kids
4 years ago
Wiseonthree​(dom male) - It isn’t my fault. Why should I have to ask my wife what issues her best friend has? You are being quite judgmental and not very helpful.
4 years ago
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } - No not judgemental just honest. ..

Ur wifes bbf but u know nothing about her ...please....

Ask any giy how much thet hear about their wifes / girlfriends family , best friend, ect ect .

4 years ago
Wiseonthree​(dom male) - Yeah, I don’t need your “judgemental honesty” cause that’s not what I’m asking for.

Pointing the blame game on anyone is uncouth. Go give bad “honesty” elsewhere. It isn’t cool, and it isn’t sound advice just “Haha you fucked up” which is not what I posted this blog post for.
4 years ago
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } - That " haha u fucked up" was not wat i was saying or doing. Read my post below all this. And i dont sugar count . im blunt and honest. Soo watever u cant deal with that. I m done
4 years ago
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } - Okay this is just my two cents. And strictly just that. Most people that I know that suffer from PTSD I ( former Army) know about these things and if they black out randomly for no reason at all they've lost track of time so they'll recognize the fact that they have or people tell them so she probably knows.


Secondly (and I know I might get hit with a bunch of backlash on this one but I mean nothing bad towards anyone who has psychological issues or PTSD )seriously dude you didn't know anything about these which very well could be true I guess. But most of time there are signs. Who leaves their child with someone who has those kinds of psychological issues that you're heading to unsupervised
4 years ago
Wiseonthree​(dom male) - If someone is properly medicated, already receiveing help that they need, and doing what they should be doing (informing people of these issues) then I should have no issue with this person being with my child. If someone is not properly taking pills, seeking help, and is trying to hide that they are having black outs and such....then I don’t want them near my child.

I , as I have said, did not know she was being treated for any form of psychosis. This is quite alarming to me, and I am taking the proper action. Nothing bad has happened thankfully yet.
4 years ago
WhiteRoses​(sub female) - Exactly, you DIDN'T know and whatever the full list of reasons why you didn't know really is not the issue at this point. There is I am sure a great deal of background that wouldn't fit in the original text. Not really the point at this point in time.

By all means this lady needs your help and support. Dealing with mental illness issues in my family growing up I have seen so much of people just walking away, they don't want to deal with it. Does anyone ever stop and think about what kind of hell these people live in? When your mind and thoughts betray you to that degree? And what the family deals with when you can't help?

If you are able to deal with it, I have so much gratitude on her behalf.

You are taking steps to ensure the safety of your child, that comes first obviously.

Sounds like you are handling things as they need done. If you want to talk I am available
4 years ago
Bunnie - Ok, so obviously her mental illness doesn’t make her a bad person. We trust our friends. That is definitely an odd way to find out that perhaps she has a bit more going on than anyone realised lol.

I’m glad it wasn’t with serious consequences... clearly she cares for your son enough to keep him safe despite whatever was going on.

I would be thankful for that, but probably wouldn’t test the possibility of being so lucky again at this point in time.

Undiagnosed illness can be like a ticking time bomb. As suggested by others, she may not be aware, and being told by a friend could be a gentle way to find out. She may also be horrified that this happened while she was responsible for your child, so it could be nice for her having that support, as well as encouragement to seek professional help.
4 years ago
Dellydoodah​(neither female) - Wiseon hree..apologies for calling you nuts. Ok you didn't know about this womans' problems and I'm sure you're doing things to ensure she doesn't sit anymore. Perhaps a better check on those you entrust your precious family with? Guys ..Enough..back off..this is bullying .
4 years ago

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