Wise thoughts

TheLittlePrincess​(sub female){SSG} - I haven't seen anyone really make rules like that before. Could you explain why someone might want to put those rules in place?

Wiseonthree​(dom male) - It’s generally not a good rule to make, however as Bunnie described its all about that individuals experience. More than likely the person making those rules has an issue with trust. Also has an issue with confidence as well. Perhaps at girls night outs his submissive says to much ld

It only has so far of a useful effect s let’s say keeping it so your submissives only social experience is you. In some cases submissives desire that “wholeness” from their Dom. This rule can have that effect only if the submissive are in agreement.

Ultimate trust takes time, and more than likely he’s been hurt enough times that he has a hard time trusting.

He finds the right one, they will click. Rules to protect him from pain. Basically.

Bunnie - Perhaps it depends on the friends.

I think what is often overlooked in these situations is that not everyone is surrounded by a healthy support system... be it friends or even family.

Sometimes, for some people, being removed from those influences can allow someone to heal and grow into themselves.

Sometimes we need to let go of the past to make space for new, healthier, more nourishing things to enter into our lives.

So perhaps it’s a possibility that when someone says “no friends” they may mean that it will be a decision based around what the person they have chosen to trust to make the decisions best for them, believes are the best choices for that person’s wellbeing.

Yes... there are those who abuse... but not always... there is always more than one perspective to a situation.

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - Perfectly said Bunnie!

Wiseonthree​(dom male) - Bunnie: your words are always welcomed on my blog.

Of course, there are situations where a separation from a painful past welcomed. That is ultimately for the two to decide together. Making it a first rule, or a condition to be ones submissive is asking quite a lot of a person. A couple of things to say on that topic.

They might make that wonderful sacrifice and decide that, that’s a wonderful step that should not be taken lightly and if they do, that’s a cause for celebration since that means they take you as a Dom seriously. Also, that they are looking forward to the future and what it entails with you.

Some people don’t need to make that sacrifice, they don’t have the guy friends, or girl friends, or much of any girls night or boys night outs. This is a situation where, hopefully, a healthy bit of prying will find if they desire friends or just one solid companion for the rest of their life. (Ideally I can see this person getting along with this rule the best.)

Lastly, perhaps they will find the rule maker to be hurt, far more than anyone else has hurt them. Finding that in their strength of Rule crafting/dictating they are hiding a facade. That they are broken and need them (the sub) more than the sub needs Them.

Look at it like this, this was not directed from my personal social experience, it was directed from me reading blogs and finding that certain people laid down that rule.

I get why, however it might alienate some.