I am not who you see in the video... is what I wanted to yell. This is, of course, highly confusing. You see, I come off looking very bad when trying to video chat, I find the situation horribly uncomfortable and so, when attempting this to do this (what seems a herculean feat to me)things went quite poorly. And this chat I'm referring to had no sexual aspect to it, it never made it that far. But I'm not writing this blog to air grievances, I don't think that is what these blogs should be used for... They should be used to share experiences, information, opinions. They should be used to make people think or smile but not to air your dirty laundry. So, with that in mind, I would like to share a thought that my most recent experience has put in the forefront of my mind...
It is simply that while this age of video chat and online, virtual, well, everything does indeed let us connect over great distances there is a cost. When you meet someone in person you usually know right away if there's a chance for things to go further between you. You feel the "chemistry" or you don't. But you get to see the person much more for who they are from the start. You haven't yet built up an image in your head of who you expect to see and therefore aren't, in turn let down by the person in front of you. Also you haven't spent time and invested your emotions texting and talking only to have someone see you through video and decide you don't fit the image in their head and they don't want you.
Like I said, I do acknowledge how video can bridge large distances and apparently works for most. But like I said at the start, I am not the person you see in the video. To see who I really am, you must take the time or travel the distance to meet me. The real, in the flesh me. To do otherwise does us both a disservice.
