Ok I'd like to start off with this, in no way shape or form is this to judge, criticize or shame someone's kink. It's to get a perception on this lifestyle or relationship.
First off let me tell you a story.
Back when I was still working, was out with my boss a lovely older gentlem same age as my father. We were working on a problem with one of our fire alarm panels.
A very new and younger employee stopped by and was chit chatting with us. Not sure how the topic came up but he made the comment that since we were married it was guaranteed that we were getting pussy all the time.
Both of us just started laughing are ass's off. After a minute we both said that's not at all correct.
This young man's perception was that if you got married that pussy would be like food always available when you were in the mood.
Some people seem to have this perception that in this lifestyle if you're a dominant that it's a guarantee that a submission is just going to be available 24/7 to fulfill your every want and need.
My former submission was a slave with very few limitations and still there was no guarantee of pussy 24/7.
Realistically it's impossible to have that mindset, a submissive has a life, they get sick, they sometimes aren't even in the mood, outside forces work against the playtime, job, kids, family, friends, etc.
Honestly Doms how many of you could fuck 24/7 I have other things to do, yard isn't going to mow itself, I need sleep, me time is important also.
This lifestyle like any relationship isn't based solely on sex if it was then it wouldn't be a lifestyle it would be a hookup or one night stand.
My mother asked me once if I had sex before marriage I answered absolutely. My reason why was you can be totally compatible with someone outside the bedroom and be total miserable in the bedroom. Same thing applies in reverse, sex is wonderful but you can't stand each other in day to day life.
That in my own opinion and experience makes for a bad combination.
Any good relationship has to start with open and honest conversations about everything.
Once you have all the information from those conversations then you have to decide if this is something you want to pursue or let it go.
All relationships are a work in progress, as someone who has been married 3 times and divorced twice I know that it takes both people to make things work both in the bedroom and out of the bedroom.
I'm not going to lie and say life with Hazel Eyes has been easy, we both have gotten on each other's nerves but we talk about what the problem is and work together to fix it.
Having a kid now is a whole new set of challenges in dealing with playtime. All just say it's been awhile.
Little piece of advice from a old man is if you are telling her that you're a dominant than probably your not. I don't actually know of any dominants that actually go around telling people look I'm a dom obey me.
Too the submissive's ask yourself this question are they actually reading your profile, is the first message hi my name is so and so I'd like to get to know you, is their profile blank. Red flags are red for a reason why waste your time and effort.
As a Master I encountered the same thing, no profile, no pictures, random messages asking if they could be my submissive.
Dominant or submissive protect yourself, blank profile, first contact with broken words like hey if you can't form a sentence than you can't have my time. If the person can't honestly answer questions like what do you do for a living, where do you live, are you married, do you have kids, what's the weather like in your area, then not worth pursuing.
Hazel Eyes had a background check run on me before we met in person. I totally loved her for that, sounds like something I would do.
Sex is a major part of this lifestyle I won't ever deny that but if you're looking for someone long term then do your homework so that you have happy ever after.
Life is way to short to waste your time on something you hope works out in the end.
To everyone here who is looking for that special person I wish you nothing but the best life has to offer.
As with anything in life it take hard work, dedication and the willingness to go the distance. As it states until death do you part.
So remember perception is sometimes clouded by a raging hard on, a tit pic or a misconception about what is real and simple bullshit.
For all of our wonderful cage family I wish you all nothing but the best life has to offer.
Lion, Hazel eyes and the Terror tot.