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Beauty & the Bondage

9 months ago. February 2, 2024 at 2:29 AM

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"Are you okay?"

This may be the most powerful question in a dynamic.

We all have moments of imperfection. Sometimes we say the things the wrong way, sometimes trauma gets triggered, and sometimes people accidentally point their anger at their partner when what's bothering them is something else entirely. And sometimes someone is perfectly fine, you just read them wrong. It happens.

"Are you okay?"

This question covers a multitude of sins. A multitude of misunderstandings. Saves a multitude of heartbreak. It can change someone's life, and practiced in a dynamic can be key to long-term success.

"Are you okay?"

Of course, asking this question is not enough. You also need to be willing to listen. To ask clarifying questions, and give your partner space to be understood. Sometimes this may only take a minute. Sometimes it takes much, much longer. Sometimes you may need to agree to talk about it later. Dynamics are complex, and each dynamic and the moments within it will look very different, but the posture of listening to each other is critical to a mature and healthy relationship of any type.

"Are you okay?" works because when you ask this question you are believing the best in your partner. And that enables you to go deeper. I can't speak for everyone, but my desire within a dynamic is to Know and be Known, to reach the deepest parts of someone. Exploring sexual fantasies is a huge part of this for me but even more important is two partners exploring each other's souls.

And it does take two; if you're the only partner listening and believing the best then your relationship is not set up well to succeed.

"Are you okay?"

And the most wonderful part? If two partners ask this question over and over it will make the relationship better over time. You will start to know when your partner is and is not okay, leading to a deeper, better, healthier bond.

Sweet Minx​(sub female){NotLooking} - Very thoughtful post. Thank you :)
9 months ago
Bunnie - Love this. Thank you :)
9 months ago

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