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The philosophies and adventures of a girl, just trying to make her way in the world.
“I’ve done every damn thing in the book wrong”... this is the story of that journey.
1 month ago. March 4, 2024 at 10:07 PM

The reality is,
you’ve never been given a chance to be soft. To relax.
To relinquish.
From the very beginning,
you were forced into a role that demanded
you be in control.
And though you flourish as a leader,
you desire something other than sovereignty.

You’ve always been the one who was relied upon,
yet rarely had anyone to rely on.

And oh, how sweet it would be to just float.
To just drift and flow and feel the freedom of getting lost in someone you trust.
To sink into the embracing arms of someone unwavering.
Someone so fiercely loyal that when you look in their eyes you see an unbreakable bond. You deserve an energy equal to your own. Someone whose ambition and drive rises
to meet you exactly where you are.
Where you’ve always been.

For so long you’ve carried the weight of unmet promises that turned into burdens.
This is not your fault.
Look how far you’ve come.
It’s easier to walk these roads alone
than it is to drag someone along.
All you ever ask for in return
are the very same things you give away freely. Stop excusing your expectations.
You deserve reciprocation.


J. Raymond
"Equal Energy"
From The Kindred Project: Vol. II

 

(personal note: Whilst at first glance this may read as being geared towards females, I personally don’t see this as gender specific. I think we all deserve a place to be “soft”… it just may look different for each of us in how that shows up.)

Sweet Ginger​(sub female){} - I think ever woman should be "given a chance to be soft" to feel safe in that space of vulnerability, a free fall with the right person..Beautifully worded, Bunnie, thanks for sharing.
1 month ago
Spanks hard​(dom male){Looking } - Even though I am Dominant who craves the softer side of the girl in my life yet being strict and show a harsh tendency I can still show her that have gentle caring nature as well. And will let her know that I love her.
1 month ago
Literate Lycan​(dom male) - It's not funny but when I read this I don't read it as geared towards women. I see it as simply saying you want a soul mate who rivals your own ferocity and ethos. Someone who can be your safe space on the days when you wish to put your head down and rest, if only for a moment.
1 month ago
Sweet Ginger​(sub female){} - Indeed. And i like how you expressed that, LL...I read it through a women's eyes and you read it through a man's eyes with what resonates with you.
1 month ago
Bunnie - Exactly 😊
1 month ago
GiannaRay​(sub female) - This was beautiful. Felt so deeply.
1 month ago
DaddyDrago{LilAmethys} - Interestingly, as I read this (before I noted your personal paragraph) I kept thinking, 'I have long desired this! '

We talk all the time about submissives finding their safe space to just 'be' within dominance. I am willing to believe, because I am just starting to allow myself to accept it can be real for me, that dominance can just 'be' inside of submission.

LL put it succinctly, someone who shares your ethos.

The longer I spend in a dynamic without chaos, the more I see the fulfillment of my purpose and being from an ease and balance position. It is trite to say Yin and Yang, or polarities but it rings true in so many instances.
As a dominant I carry the weight of my world on my shoulders......in some moments that may be even necessary or correct. I am coming more to see it is a LOT less about what I DO or exert and more about who I am in my natural flow and authenticity. What is born from my character, that is a refuge for her.
Conversely, she is every bit a safe space for me. In her authenticity she smiles, kneels and arouses in me the ferocity to protect HER. I can safely be the OCD, neurotic, planning, but go-with-the-flow man I am......because that is what she needs. What she finds value in. I do not have to pretend to be something or someone I am not. Nor she.
The armor we have both worn to fight the battles to simply be heard, or because we each carried things out of necessity that we would rather not have had to, falls away. Within each of us is the natural rhythm to carry those things the other simply is not organically built for. Without even trying she carries those things I would otherwise not do as well in, and vice versa.
Reciprocation?
Yes.
More than that it is peace. Rest. A ceasing effort to 'tackle' the things each of us would rather not have to if given the option. Yet, where we each excel, and desire to live as individuals fulfills, in the other, those pieces we each would find taxing as they live outside of our personal zones of genius.

This has been found, by me anyway, in my willingness to not back down from what I know serves me. Put another way, I knew what I was capable of, what my capacity and limits were.....if she was going to come into my life it would be because she did not ask those things from me I simply was unable to do as an organic piece of me.
I was capable of doing them.....sure. But they were not a natural part of who I am or who I desired to be. They served no purpose for me except to push me to be something I had to be out of perfunctory necessity.
When I am able to relax and know she has the things I no longer need to focus on, I am served. Peace exists. Rest is deep and fulfilling.
The challenge, for ME, is to let go and trust she is the fulfillment of those things in my life. To regard her as such, and extend my heart to believing in her authenticity to naturally be the things I would otherwise see as a challenge.
Which expandsy peace. Builds my contentment. Frees me up to be in my purpose. To do those things that become her refuge which are organic for me.
It is FAR from perfect. But it is a magical and beautiful thing to behold and to be called to everyday.


As always,
A wonderful post Ms. Bunnie.
Thank you
1 month ago
Bunnie - Beautifully said :)
1 month ago

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