There seems to be a trend taking shape where a “dom” contacts and begins to converse with a potential sub, then disappears like the wind without a word, just like a proverbial ghost.
So from here on ditching dom ghosts (maybe dddg for damn ditching dom ghosts😂)
I know I myself and guilty of dropping conversations here and there or being bad at replying sometimes but everyone is busy and I get to it where I can.
Its when someone has taken considerable amount of their time and energy to respond to and interact with said “doms” only to have them make plans or build the beginnings of a wonderful connection that it seems to fizzle and disappear-like a dead fish.
Not sure if they’re after some kind of emotional kick from it or get some twisted satisfaction thinking we the subs who are being So thoughtlessly pushed aside are for some reason pining over them, an emotional wreck or for some other reason lost without them, but regardless it doesn’t matter.
All translates to in my mind is that YOU are not strong enough to dominate ME and you realize you will never be able to earn my submission. Because I have a brain, speak my mind and thoughts and even though it hurts to be let down, I would rather go through a billion wannabe pretenders to find a real and true dom, than sit back and pretend you’re everything I want.
It astounds me that someone cannot have the decency and good grace to simply say “Hi! It’s been fun but things aren’t working out for me, have a great life!”... is it REALLY THAT HARD?
And this is for no reason and no explanation whatsoever, yes people I see those heads nodding, you know EXACTLY what I mean.
I know every sub will suffer this, and many many dom/mes as well, but at what point does ignoring someone become all right? I keep wondering if it’s done with the hopes that the other party would leave the ghost alone from there on, but realize and understand people have emotions and it costs you NOTHING to let the other person know you are ALIVE AND WELL, rather than having them worry themselves sick over your wellbeing. When you consistently build a connection and then just drop it like there’s no tomorrow all you’re doing is successfully building up more walls for the next dom who comes along, but those doms, the real ones who actually have the guts and the self worth, drive and integrity to work at scaling or tearing those walls down, will make the memory of you a sand grain within an ocean of possibilities and happiness.
All this has managed to teach me is that there are a lot of weak ass mthr f*ckers out there who can’t handle their own shit but want me to hand over all of me and mine-yeah right😂🤣.
You have to move to get to a destination, you have to put in EFFORT to get a result and I really truly don’t see what possible result could be sought after with this behavior.
Anyone who has ever ghosted another person, stop being a sh*t, go back and apologize because that is the right and honorable thing to do, and if that’s not what you stand for then you don’t deserve the title you’re trying to portray and you should stay in your f*cking lane instead of wasting other people’s time and toying with their hearts. There’s no reason to lie or mess people around, be open and just say what you want, move on with dignity and grace.
And to follow up on this I want to give a huge shout out to all the wonderful amazing people who have stuck through it and communicated like the wonderful people they are and had the personal integrity to discuss things with others before moving on or ending communications.
To all the dom/mes, daddy’s, masters, owners and anyone else I might have missed that have NOT been a party to this really horrible behavior THANK YOU for showing us what the real deal looks like and what we’re working towards and waiting for in the meantime ❤️🧸💋
