What is it about people that draw us, pulls us in or pushes us away? There are things that grab us like a tug from an invisible string and it just yanks you out from your everyday life and BAM – Here you go. This is your new…everything.
You become so drawn to it, so infatuated, enraptured and for lack of a better word obsessed (yes we’ve ALL been there and if you haven’t you’re kinda not doing something right, or you’re lying to yourself, it’s all good you do you 😊 ).
Everything revolves around this new THING. This desire, passion, fuel for thought. It burns bright like a blaze and makes you want to explode with life and energy buzzing through your every heartbeat.
And then you take another breath and it begins to fade, a little more with each waking moment, every thought, the whispers that start to creep in and plain old common sense.
Everyone wants to believe in the pretty perfect words, the carefully crafted bits and pieces put proudly on display to draw the bees and the ever so popular fairytale ending right? Right…? π‘ right….
I’d be happy with just plain decency. Common courtesy, a little bit of effort and genuine living breathing YOU. In person or digital, the only thing holding you back from getting to where you want to go is that person in the mirror you see staring back at you everytime.
A little time to build up a momentum, a common interest and build on an energy together instead of chasing a pointless shiny new infatuation.
I’ve had so many people ghosting, fading away, plain old blocking me for a Hi how are you (great way to make new friends-best of luck with that π½ ).
Took me ages of mental bashing, trashing, upheaval and self-evaluation in that same damn mirror to realize that at the end of the day its not a me thing, I was never the reason or the cause of that behavior.
They wanted something from me that I clearly couldn’t give, not because I wasn’t willing to, but because they couldn’t see it in me and weren’t willing to stick around and find out if it was worth their time. Worth. ME, my WORTH. Them and THEIR time.
But the trick here is I’m not here to wind anyone up, like a broken doll that needs to be strung along and directed like some helpless hapless puppet. I am not voiceless. I am not mindless, or whimsical, fickle, flimsy or a fucking wilting flower waiting for some magical “Dom” to come and save me.
That fairytale burnt along with the delusions and hopes these countless, self-inflated ego’s on legs played around with like a brand new fresh cut of meat.
News flash -Calling yourself a Dom doesn’t make you one (yeah boys you know who you are).
A real Dominant never has to say it, doesn’t need to make demands and would never need to behave in that manner because just a look from him will put you in your place so fast your head would spin, leaving no question or doubt.
A real Dominant knows the value of building a strong foundation, learning the playing field, being aware of the surroundings, risks, goals, long term and short term possibilities and all the potential that goes with it. They’re not interested in simple cuts of meat or catching easy prey.
Like a wolf they stalk, observe, take their time. They don’t let the hunger and the thrill of the hunt overtake them or control them. They USE the bloodlust and OWN it, let it drive them and let it consume them, as it flows freely through everything they do and touch.
Does this mean they are infallible (Hardly π‘ ) Always get their prey (eventually ^.^) and never make a mistake (damn I said it, run for the hills!!). Will everything always be smooth sailing, easy going and she wolves flocking to him waiting to be his perfect mate (probably but that’s another story >.< ) …um yeah no dream on.
Even the all-powerful Alpha/Dom has to WORK for what’s his, as he worked to gain it, make it his own and will continue to work in order to KEEP it.
Keep it safe, nurtured, nourished and most importantly HIS because as I’m sure you all know there is only ever one leader of the pack and his authority is unchallenged (for long). And once he’s chosen his mate, after careful observation, gauging her strengths, abilities and loyalty, they will together grow and embody the best they both can be while caring for one another and facing the world together.
So this is where I take the time to thank all those wonderful Dom’s who know and value their own worth, who take their time, set examples and help us look forward to what could be instead of just chasing after empty shadows and hollow illusions.
THANK YOU to all the wonderful Dom’s who take their time to guide us, nurture us and help us to learn and value the difference between real and pretend. The Old Guard and the New who strive to learn and become the one we would truly wish to submit to.
And another THANK YOU to all the wonderful couples who are so sharing and caring with their experience, insights and information- it is a beautiful thing to see and it warms my heart to know some endings are happy ones even without the magical pixie dust (hides the bag away as people start sneezing from the teensy sprinkle of magic in the air).
Curtsies and wanders off in search of wolves in the woods…
