Capable, competent and confident.
All three of these words mean similar things, all bleed into one another and for the most part would be found together.
Over the years people learn skills, coping mechanisms and behaviours that allow them to adapt to their lifestyles, give them the best advantages possible and let them manage their stress and day to day life.
Ideally these would also help build self assurance, a solid disposition and a humble yet courteous demeanour over time.
But what happens when the sense of self is taken out of the equation? When the lifeskills learned as a child become destructive over time and lead to toxic productivity, obsessive perfectionism and suffocating performance standards that are impossible to maintain?
If the inherent lessons that should be learned as a child -essential building blocks of life as it were- are completely removed and have been surpassed by decades and somehow left behind , the foundation that was built will eventually come crumbling and crashing down falling apart around a bewildered and highly efficient but ultimately socially and emotionally inept person drowning in a disconnected void , trying to mesh together loose wires and missing pieces with no idea how to go about it.
I think that over time this has been everyone to some extent or another, walking around with a simmering low key trauma and emotional deluge of emptiness that they try their best to wade through as they navigate all the crazy new emotions, sensations and energies they come across in life.
What is most likely needed is new building blocks to help buffer and strengthen old skills and habits/coping mechanisms that do work, while replacing the older ones that may have helped in survival mode but no longer serve a purpose on the current journey.
If anyone has advice or experience in this I would love some feedback and input as this is something I’m currently struggling with myself.
Wishing whoever is reading this a wonderful day and some happiness wherever you may be🦋🐾
