Musings of a Dom .... D/s relationships through the eyes of a Dom

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Many a vanilla has shades of green (I‘m not a grey kind of guy). I see BDSM and the D/s dynamic as green - life - growing. But they tend to see their “fun” not as “kink” but as acceptable . . . judgment is such a delicate perspective.

Wicked Ways​(dom male){venia} - Very true ! Judgements are relative to the person making the judgment. I believe judgements , are limited by what one knows or understands.

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - I love this especially the last. I do so not just mentally but physically too.

Wicked Ways​(dom male){venia} - I agree .... I put my mind body and soul into my relationship. It’s important that it be complete

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - I want to love this over and over and over!!! Wonderful post as always, Wicked .❤️

Wicked Ways​(dom male){venia} - Thank you KB !

ADIDAS - If only they knew the harm all this ignorant nonsense did to one lil girl....... As she grew she knew that yes, these were feelings she liked but she would over hear her family and later as she grew, her friends too would use these words to describe people who liked THAT kind of thing. Words like " freak" " sick" "carnival freaks" and even worse! So, as the lil girl grew, she hid these feelings from the people that she loved and that loved her. She watched them and learned how to become as them... One of them in a grown woman's body many, many years later, she faces those feelings only to learn it's OK! Completely normal! She's not a freak after all! It's all rather confusing to the lil girl inside because she thinks her loved ones lied, only to learn that no, they didn't lie, they just didn't know any better. They're coming from a place of lack of education about BDSM. All they'd ever seen or known is what is portrayed in porn which doesn't accurately portray relationships of ANY kind... All they knew was one person would hurt another. The end.
Moving forward, lil girl found a way AND her Daddy to explore and learn about these feelings in a SSC way....
Lil girl, ( now in a grown woman's body, many years later) finally feels like a whole person for the first time in her life. She understands why her loved ones were like they were but makes her sad.... She forgives them.... She continues on with her life now, happy as ever, as any lil girl can be.... If they only knew...

*** Forgive me Mr. Wicked for being a bit of a hijacker.... I wanted to be able to tell my parents this but I can't. You see they died. 17 months apart.( 10 years ago) I was EXTREMELY close to both of them. They knew EVERYTHING about me! Uh huh... EVERY THING! We all 3 kinda grew up together as they liked to say.... As they were teens themselves when I was born. .... Would I have straightened them out about their views on bdsm? You betcha!!! In a heartbeat! And they would've not only believed me they would've been happy for me!

This post really touched me( obviously) and I want to thank Mr. Wicked for putting it up. It's cathartic for me to look back and remember how I got to where I am today. Also helps me to stay grateful for my life , to not take any of it for granted. I'm a very, very lucky lil girl! 🐸

Ms. A.

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - Thank you for sharing this Ms. A. Much love to you ❤️

Wicked Ways​(dom male){venia} - No apology needed A. On the contrary, I am glad you were touched by this post, and I thank you for sharing your story with us.

alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } - Well , i would like to add that its a bit funny to me that they call us this. You see while what you say is very true. If you sit back and really look at alot of vanilla relastionships you might see things as i do when i ppl watch freinds , family and co workers. alot of them are on the fringe on kink relationships already them selves. Yet they say these things , so i have tolaugh . just my veiw of ppl watching said aloud

Lion​(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - Judgement is a way others show their fear of something different from their own lives. We as a society have done this for centuries, religion's started it, jesus didn't judge mary for being a prostitute but welcomed her to be loved by his side. We have all heard the words that degrade another human being for being different. In this day and age you would think being intelligent humans we would get to know someone before passing judgment. I would rather stand next to a sinner than sit next to a hypocrite in church. My God is the only one who will ever judge me and to all the others I just don't care what you think about me. I will now get off the soap box. Best wishes to everyone and a bug hug. 😊

Wicked Ways​(dom male){venia} - ” Judgement is a way others show their fear of something different ....”
I couldn’t agree more! Prejudice is based on fear of the unknown. Pre conceived notions based on a subjective opinion and not on facts .