This twisted reality is all ours

The other day I was told by a very ignorant male “sub” that only men can be real dominants in the real world. But in the bedroom, women are the Dominants.  My first thought was wondering why his mother didn’t swallow him when she had the chance. My second thought was genuine concern.

I was concerned over his ignorance of hurting someone, on an emotional plane, due to his obvious lack of knowledge as to how the scene really works. I was concerned that he would destroy a potentially great thing between him and another Domme (I don’t have patience for that kind of stupid) and that Domme would turn her back on the lifestyle completely, due to the bad experience she will have with him. But mostly I was concerned that he will end up hurting someone in a physical sense, due to his obvious misunderstanding that the scene is all about sex or, in the bedroom.

Now, I am not stupid enough to believe that only women can be Dominants. I am also not stupid enough to think it's only men. I believe that both men and women can be Dominants. It’s just something that they are. But I also believe that true Doms can’t just turn off their Dominance because they are not behind closed doors. That isn’t how that works.

Being Dominant isn’t about barking orders. It is a true state of mind. It is something that is always there because that’s how a Dom is wired. It doesn’t stop because you go outside of the bedroom. It doesn’t stop at all.  

I really hope he finds a very patient Domme that can train him and explain to him how this world really works. And I really and truly hope that he doesn’t destroy their interest in this world or most importantly, hurt them.

I know everyone has a different definition of certain mainstream things. Take for instance, a poly relationship or poly individual.

My definition is certainly different. Personally, I am not poly. I believe poly means an individual that has a lot of love to give. They enjoy the company of many and welcome new people. Though they may not always love each new person they meet, they also don’t automatically count that out as a possibility. For me, it is best to describe Poly as being at a buffet and trying a bit of everything. Sometimes you find yourself going back for seconds to a few different dishes. But you love each dish the same. That is poly.

Then we have, what I believe is not poly.  Those that believe others should do as they are told, not as they do. For example: I know a male that claims the poly title, but then verbally announces to others that his girlfriend is not allowed to have another man. But it ok for him to have another woman. On the opposite side, I know a woman that has a boyfriend that thinks its ok for her boyfriend to have a boyfriend, but absolutely NOT another girlfriend. That’s not poly. These people just like sex and want to claim a title to it, such as poly, to be able to get away with it.

Again, I am not poly. I want nothing to do with other females. I actually despise them. But I welcome the potential for more than one male. I love the idea of a boyfriend or husband having a boyfriend. This thrills me. But as for other women… it would end badly for them. I am not poly. But I am also not so jaded enough that I feel the need to place a title, such as poly, and in the process of using such title, insult the people that actually are poly. Why lie? You aren’t poly, you just like to f***.

Wtf? Well, good for you. I am a Domme all the time, not just in the bedroom.

In the store, at the gas station, watching TV, at a play, at a show, going to a convention, AND in the bedroom. Just because my location changes, doesn't mean my status does.

You seem to be a bit confused there little subby wannabe. And I bet I know how you got here, too.

Don't let that tragic event in your life suddenly make you decide that you, all of a sudden want to be a submissive. That's stupid, if not a little insulting. I get you are sad or got a mental mind fuck, because of the divorce, death, sister ran off with your brother, or whatever. But that isn't a smart way to enter the lifestyle. Plus it wastes everyone's time, on you, the fake sub. The only reason you are here is because you think the lifestyle is the grand all, be-all to amazing sex. And that's what you need to get over your mind shattering crisis in your life. Ffs! This isn't 50 Shades of Nonsense.

If you decide that the lifestyle is for you then make that decision on your best day. Don't wait until you are feeling your worst. Do it at your best. That way you will have a clear head, a smiling heart, and a happy soul. That will make you the best sub you can be. Invaluable to your owner and even cherished. Leave the sex dreams to the porn stars. Real Dommes prefer happy, obedient, thriving subs. Not the mentally mind fucked. And certainly not the deluded.

So, a Domme is supposed to be perfect. A Domme is not supposed to have any physical ailments. They are to be perfect in body, mind, spirit, heart, and every other way. A Domme that is not perfect is unworthy of the title. They are broken.

So I have to ask, my little submissive, where is your perfection?  Why are you not the poster boy for submissives everywhere?  And if you're so perfect, why do you not have a Domme?

Now I will step back into reality and remind you, Dommes are people. We bleed just like you, my little submissive. The difference is, you can never be like me. Your mind can't comprehend it. You are not built that way. And I can never be like you.  I would rather die than try it. And that is what makes me, the Domme.

I may be held together with duct tape, in some areas, but, my little submissive, I can easily still consume you; alive. 

And when I'm done, you'll wonder, "What just happened?" Because it won't be me, my little submissive, it will be you, the one who's broken. 

Ah, yes. Those blowhard, impotent, twat, wannabe Doms that don't bother to read profiles and go down a list throwing out emails to anyone and everyone. Had they bothered to read the profiles, they can determine that not everyone, is a sub. But that requires two things. 

1. The ability to read.

2. The intelligence to interpret what they read.

I guess now I know, why they need a sub so badly. 🤣

I'm not magical. I'm not made of money. I'm not fake. I'm not patient. 

What I am is fed up. Dommes/Dom aren't fantasy creatures. We are people. We breath, bleed, cry, smile, hate, hurt and everything just like everyone else. We simply have a different mindset than subs. I personally can't wrap my head around how a sub thinks. I can't do what they do. I won't. But I also can't wrap my head around those married subs that 'hide it' from the spouse. This goes beyond pathetic, even for a sub. And it truly, ticks me off!

I can't understand why it is so difficult to tell the spouse how you feel and what you are doing? To me, if you can't tell your spouse the truth, than, you won't tell me the truth either. That makes you a liar. In my eyes, I have no use for liars. So I will use my magical powers, and turn you into a sandwich. Because when I encounter liars, I will eat them alive. 🤣😁

I fantasize about finding a real submissive. A real sub lives to please their better. The subs limits, is their betters limits. The subs fantasies, is their betters fantasies. The sub wants their better to be happy, they have no preconceived thought of blackmail, sex, limits, faking interest, not following through, running, or how to get away with living with their better for nothing. 24/7 indeed.  They have no thought other than how to please.

On the opposite end, a real Domme/Dom would never abuse their sub. They would never hurt them and they would always protect them and keep them safe. A broken toy is no good, so why would you destroy it? You’re an idiot.

I see so many ‘newcomer subs’ that are suddenly getting into the scene with the hopes that they get the most wild, passionate, sex they have ever had. I also see ‘newcomer Domme/Dom’ getting into the scene with the intent of getting a c-note because they are not actually real pro Domme/Dom. These people are pathetic. These subs are coming into this world under false pretense and destroying it for real potential subs. These Domme/Dom are useless predators and destroying this world for the actual pros that exists.

This world was supposed to be a fantastical escape from the uncaring, coldness of reality. But instead, ignorance has turned it into a nightmare.