Unconditional Love

A lot has been written here about unconditional love and how it applies to any kind of relationship we have. I only speak of this through my own experiences and my observations of others and not in the abstract because unconditional love is what I offer all my close friends and especially in my relationships. Once I can look into the eyes of my partner and say " I love You" it is unconditional love.  I don't take those words lightly and will delay saying them until I am sure but once they are spoken it is sealed in my heart and you will get unconditional love from me. What that means is that from that day forward no matter what happens between us I will always love you that way and nothing you do.....no  circumstances could ever change the way I feel about them or break us up(with the exception of murder) . Working through everything, no matter what is the very definition of unconditional love and .....that our love is so strong nothing can ever break us apart and everything can be worked out no matter what.  Anything short of that is not unconditional love and to offer that to another only to have a condition break you apart  is nothing short of lying to your partner and to yourself.  When you are given unconditional love you are free to be yourself and express everything that is on your mind with no fear of breaking up. It is truly the healthiest place a relationship.can be. People use the term unconditional love to freely and that diminishes its meaning when you really count on it to keep your relationship together and strong. If you don't mean it, don't say it. Many relationships survive without it....that is with a condition that is a deal breaker ....but once you say it you better mean it because if a condition arises and causes one to break up with the other it will be a total blindside that will scar the other for the rest of their life. The feeling you get from a love that was promised unconditionally and then pulled out from under you can be too much to bare. The ironic thing about when someone breaks up with you after promising unconditional love is that the other still gives their unconditional love back because their promises of unconditional love and their feelings have not changed towards that person  and wanting to work things out is what they try to instinctively do and this makes moving on so much more difficult.