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Sir Don​(dom male){Nt looking} - Comment deleted by poster.

Sir Don​(dom male){Nt looking} - I don't understand the meaning of this post... this a BDSM site which i am understanding means it has people who like kink in many different ways adults who i think know what they are getting involved in with like minded people... if you feel like it should be more vanilla then maybe you dhould reconsider why you are here... i respect your feelings but everyone has a different take.on what ghry like... i mean no disrepect.. just my opinion

simplylaura​(sub female){djinni} - I feel like my meaning is fairly simple. I tend to write for a newspaper reading level, which is around 11th grade. I prefer to use bullet points when having to explain myself to someone who doesn't understand, so I hope this helps.

* I think you do mean disrespect and I do think that you are here to start stuff. Quite frankly I don't care. Unlike your censoring friend, I welcome disagreement.

* I think you missed my entire last line. People should be able to practice/write/whatever they want WITH exception to to things that someone cannot fully consent to (a homeless woman trading housing for sex, for example), to things that are predatory, and to things that are illegal/unethical. I also think people need to watch their p's and q's about what they post online, because nothing is truly private and anything that leaks out to the vanilla world makes us look like what they think we are. We have a responsibility to police ourselves and need to keep participation by predators and unsafe people to a minimum.

* I understand what bdsm is VERY well. I have engaged in our local bdsm/leather community for over 16 years, helped run a local dungeon, and hold a leadership position in a well known leather club in my town. I've seen plenty of real life hardcore play, and have engaged in plenty of it myself. What separates real people from the fakes, however, is that I don't have to come online and post things so that others will blow sunshine up my ass. I don't need to come on here and show off "how big and bad an tough" I am so that strangers make me feel good about myself.

*I'll reiterate- the kinkier the shit, the more I'll like it. I'm a legit masochist and even my own Ma'am didn't see how much I enjoy until she saw the results of a recent play session. BUT we have a responsibility to not be assholes and to be aware of the stuff we post. Blogs are not private. I've said it before. You want a private blog? Buy a Moleskine and a nice pen. Otherwise, watch what you say.

*Things are (thankfully) not the same in the real life kink community as they were when I first entered 16 years ago. We do not protect predators in our real life spaces, nor should we in our online spaces. If you're not down with that, maybe it's time to find a new place to hang out. Just sayin'.

*The point of my blog is to thank the mods for doing their diligence and making sure that things that are not appropriate for the safety of our community (our members AND of our appearance to the vanilla world). Pretty simple, really.

Just my opinion.

Sir Don​(dom male){Nt looking} - Okay that is your opinion and you know nothing about me .... i am not here to start anything with you. You were disrepectful so what mskes you any different than anyone else.. glad to see you made it to the 11 grade.

simplylaura​(sub female){djinni} - Funny how opinions work, eh?

Grey Eyes​(sub female){Owned} - Simply Laura, couldn't we all agree to disagree without becoming hateful?

simplylaura​(sub female){djinni} - Nope. Being a predator is not an opinion to disagree with. You are either in support of one or not in support of one. Quite simple.

Satindragon{Not Lookin} - We should all have the freedom to blog what we want on our blogs. If you don’t want to read what someone post then don’t read their blogs. There are several people here that I don’t make a habit of reading or commenting on their blogs for that reason. Just because you disagree doesn’t give you permission to judge others.

Grey Eyes​(sub female){Owned} - Well said Satin. I am in agreement with your comments as well as that of DonDomforher. I believe judging others is the opposite concept of this community - we are all individual with different viewpoints. We all need to embrace our differences or if you can't handle that then look the other way.

simplylaura​(sub female){djinni} - As I said before and will keep saying over and over, there is absolutely reason to judge when it comes to public dissemination of dangerous information and predatory behavior. The internet is not private. Otherwise, do what you want to do and say what you want to say.

Satindragon{Not Lookin} - Judge not lest ye be judged. When we put ourselves on a pedestal the fall hurts like hell.

simplylaura​(sub female){djinni} - I'm on no pedestal but I'm also confident that I'm not a predator or dangerous person. There's plenty to judge me about and I'm ok with that, there are community mores that should be kept up.

djinni​(dom female){smplylaura} - @Satin I like and respect you always have and I don’t want that to change.

Y’all do realize you’re coming to her blog telling her not to blog about something while supporting someone else’s right to blog about something. Please tell me you see the irony here.

I will also say this... people make assumptions about things. It’s quite funny actually. Just because we are the only ones not afraid to speak of things, don’t believe that we are the only ones who feel this way. Everyone has a “report” button.. guess what? I’ve never clicked it, not once. I’d rather counter blog and educate. I don’t fear speaking my mind. As you say, people don’t have to read my blogs.

Lastly, I will not stand in support of anyone who engages in predatory behavior or supports them. Do your kinky things... things that make me turn green and woozy... I support that. My kink isn’t your kink, I live and love by that motto. Don’t take advantage of people in desperate situations. I can assure you that the 1000’s of homeless people that look “normal”. They have jobs, nice clothes and are clean. Renting out a room is great, but you cannot solicit sex or offer it in exchange for sex. It’s predatory AND illegal. It makes me sick and I worry for anyone who is in a position that is desperate enough to take that deal. Degrade an owner submissive into the dirt if that’s your thing. My own Master talks of how I love it, and he’s right, but I know I’m safe and loveD with him.... but it’s consensual. I’m not taking it under duress... and THAT is the difference.

LolaRen​(switch female) - Well said Laura.

I am sorry others but we have a public duty as human beings to call out and prevent harm to others. Mind your own business does not work when talking about prostitution, rape, murder etc. IT IS NOT A KINK, Let me repeat that IT IS NOT A KINK OR FETISH to cause harm to other individuals without consent. It is immoral and people need to speak up and react!

Curious if you witness someone say the are going to murder someone or shoot up a pubic place would you report it? Would you make sure the appropriate authorities are notified and let them handle it? Well it is the same here. We all agree to terms and conditions upon joining. If we are in violation of those then we do deserve to suffer the consequences of our actions. So Laura thanking the admins and Mods for doing their job is the equivalent of thanking someone for their service which is a concept I think we can all understand.