There isn't much discussion out there about growing older in the D/s dynamic, and there really needs to be. Preparing for our senior years is important to everyone, but especially in the D/s or other alternative lifestyle for many reasons. I'm not talking about the casual BDSM play or hookup. I'm focusing on real relationships between D/s partners, and unattached D/s folks with a need to submit and who are or will be searching for someone as they get older.
Let's face facts. Eventually we all will be elderly, less physically capable, and less physically "attractive." If we’re in a committed relationship, reality is that eventually one partner will be left alone. Whether we have partners or we are unattached, we're faced with our aging body, health issues, our appearance, dependence on others, and how the "kink" fits in, if it still does. We need to discuss with our partners how to renegotiate what we expect and what we need from the relationship. And because a submissive often lives under another's control, it's important that a submissive is able to function and move on if something happens to their dominant.
An unattached, aging sub will eventually question what they have to offer if they are no longer as physically able to serve as they once were. Where are these older subs? They're out there alone, reluctant to reach out, and embarrassed to offer themselves, often giving up without ever being able to serve, whatever their ability, partially because of the stereotypes. Some are probably reading this right now.
Many of these topics need to be considered and discussed at length. Thoughts?
