Sadie's Sweets

So, I’m chilling at a munch when the new person next to me invites me to “perform for them” after the munch. I give new people the benefit of the doubt, so I smiled and said, “no thank you, and by the way, that’s not an appropriate question to ask people at a munch. Try sticking to mundane topics.”

It's taken me years to develop that level of poise. I come from guess culture to begin with, (Google: guess vs ask culture) which puts this type of ask off the scale of tolerance. Ten years ago, I probably would have thrown my food in their face while screaming “how dare you!” all the while making a bad situation worse.

Additionally, I’m not a big fan of confrontation. It comes from being conditioned to please people and being a guess culture person. If I was having a particularly anxious day when this happened back then I might have simply got up, left, and never came back. Which would ultimately have been a bummer because I’ve met a lot of nice people.

I’ve learned over the years that you can say “no” peacefully. A person made an offer, I declined. Simple. I’ve made that a part of my mindset. I’ve also learned that a firmly established boundary early on saves me from tons of confrontation later on. It takes a bit of learning techniques, but the real trick is practice.

Want to learn from my mistakes? Join me for the Clear Consent and Firm Boundaries Online class on Thursday, April 3, 2025, at 7pm EDT - Listed in the Cage Events Tab.

Imagine instantly recalling that post scene state of endorphin rush bliss with just a simple whiff of fragrance. Fragrance has the powerful effect of locking memories into our mind and then recalling them in full force when the perfume is scented again. Incorporating essential or perfume oils into your aftercare practice is a spectacular way of elevating your scene experience and preserving the memory for years to come.

Lavender Oils, like this Essentially Kates one which I just got, are particularly suited to aftercare. 

Properties Lavender Essential/Parfum Oil

Long used for calming, both medicinally and magically, Lavender Oil is an excellent choice for use in aftercare. Its soothing fragrance assists you into drifting into a calm relaxed state. In aromatherapy, Lavender is used to soothe anxiety and ease headaches. Lavender is also ideal for treating skin ailments and has been used by herbalists to do so. Essential/parfum oils should not be applied directly to the skin without a carrier oil. Lavender salve is easy to make and can be used post scene to soothe all the marks and welts on your bottom’s bottom.

Lavender Magic

Lavender's magical attributes include love, passion, and harmony. Additionally, it can promote sleep and clarity of mind. Used with a carrier oil, you can anoint the heart chakra area sealing in the love you share. Another of its magical properties is protection. Both Top and bottom can benefit from the enhanced feelings of safety and protection post-scene, and afterwards to help to stave off, or lessen the effects of Top/sub drop.

Cautions

If you’re playing outside of your home or play space, ensure that the venue you’re at approves of fragrances being used. If you intend to drive home, make sure not to use too much lavender and it can induce sleepiness. Also, always make sure to use essential and/or perfume oils with a carrier oil (like olive oil) otherwise they may burn the skin. Do not ingest any oil by mouth unless it specifically states it is edible and food grade, even then, follow the instructions exactly.

Let me know if this works for you! What other scents do you like to include in your scenes?

Book Review: The Night Market: A Standalone Fae Romantasy (A Bound By Ravens Novel) Kindle Edition by Jesikah Sundin (Author)

This book is available on:

Kindle/KU - https://amzn.to/3FBdSOP

Physical - https://amzn.to/41BmrR1

Audio - https://amzn.to/3FyzLyd

This page turning shifter romance kept me on the edge of my seat. The story of FMC Filena and Rhylen (Raven Shifter) MMC (fated mates) is ultimately a sweet but forbidden romance that is brutally tested by one harrowing trial after another. The dramatic tension kept me reading long after I should have gone to bed.

One of the things I really loved about this book was it’s exploration into courting rituals and courting magics. I loved the descriptions of how Rhylen prepared himself for courting rituals and the dances that he did for his mate. It seemed that the courting magic could compel someone to fall in love with the courtier, even if they were mated to someone else. I would LOVE to see that explored, adding to a dark element.

Really wonderful book. I highly recommend if you’re into the shifter romance and can handle a bit of anxiety. There is foreshadowing in the book that everything will work out in the end, but I was so worried for them and for what they had to go through.

Potential Trigger for me: Pregnancy was mentioned, which is usually a turn off for me, however this was nicely done and did not detract from the story at all.

The following are just amount metrics and etc. (Potential Spoilers!)

Spice - 3/5 (delicious mating scenes with partial shift/wings out)

Romance – 5/5 (love long loves pining for each other)

Fantasy – 5/5 (rich fantasy world and lore)

Dark - 3/5 (Forced marriage, slavery, class/caste system)

Kink – 1/5 (Mentions of bedroom bondage)

Does the dog die? No. No animal deaths to the best of my memory.

HEA? Yes.

Stand alone? Yes, other books in the same world are available.

Ooopsie! Looks like I have to do better at using synonyms because we can't be using big girl words like "sex".

Two family members going to the hospital one after another is zero fun. It’s actually a lot of panic and hyperfocus while your normal life routines get tossed out the window. Everyone is fine now and I have the chance to reflect on how well I kept it together. Spoiler alert: I didn’t.

EDIT – Since I started writing this I went down with the sickness that’s been running rampant – stomach flu. Yuck! I’m on the mend though.

Support Networks

Seriously, I don’t know what I would have done without them. But let’s be honest, “support networks” sounds so clinical. What they truly are, are dear friends who are there through thick and thin. People I’ve been there for. And people who have a need to help me – even though it’s hard for me to ask for help.

Support Networks aka Safety Nets

Your support networks are safety nets that catch you when you fall. And this is no different than the BDSM safety protocols you create and nurture. The stronger your networks and protocols the less damage you take when you fall. So, take that time to nurture them today, while you’re in a place where you can be the giver.

Here's my new post welcoming people to attend my munch. I get asked lots of questions and I have some stock answers, I've re-curated them here. What do you think? Would you feel welcome?

The RKE Metro Munch is a chill get together in a pizza place where kinksters meet up to talk about, well, mostly vanilla things and eat amazing food. If we’re lucky and get the place to ourselves (which we usually do) then we can talk about more kinkier things. People wear casual clothes and subtle collars are permitted. I usually provide sensory toys like these to help people relax and create an ice breaker.

There’s free parking in the front and the venue is bus-able. When you walk in you can place your order at the counter (everyone buys whatever they like from the menu on their own – remember to tip well) and join us at the table in the center. The staff are kind enough to serve us in the dining area. We usually push tables together in the center to make one big table. It’s a small place, so finding us is very easy.

Feel free to ask me anything and for those coming to this munch or going to a different one here is some more general munch information for you to explore if you so desire.

Munch Expectations

https://wordpress.com/post/sadiemcmaster.wordpress.com/566

FREE on Kindle Unlimited: Munch 101 Booklet - discover what to expect at a munch! https://amzn.to/4j9yGMt

Six Tips for a Good First Munch

https://wordpress.com/post/sadiemcmaster.wordpress.com/130

Munch 101

https://wordpress.com/post/sadiemcmaster.wordpress.com/126

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It's time to learn a new trick my little pupper! I need you to prance so that you're looking good when I'm showing you.

An interactive audio for individuals who enjoy puppy play with lots of positive reinforcement.

Immersive * Play With Me * Puppy Play * Interactive * FemDom Vibes

More immersive experiences for all the doggies and puppies out there! This audio is designed to allow you to puppy play along if you so choose. Follow your Dog Trainer's instructions and be the good puppy you know you can be!

Well come here my little puppy. Practice makes perfect. And I am going to make you work hard for your reward today.

DISCLAIMER - This is NOT how a real M/s, O/p, or D/s relationship works. This is for entertainment and fantasy purposes. For entertainment purposes only. Any play in public should be done with the consent of everyone, including anyone watching.
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Project MoriKai

I planned to post a different audio but I saw that this one was doing rather well so I want to give a shout out to all my listeners who love large scale size difference. It's a lovely fetish that can be all about comfort or being controlled and so many other things all of the awesome. Enjoy!

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What's a lovely little human like you doing here in the world of Giants? More importantly... what am I going to to with you?

DISCLAIMER - This is NOT how a real M/s or D/s relationship works. This is for entertainment and fantasy purposes.
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A Soul to Keep: Duskwalker Brides: Book One Kindle Edition
by Opal Reyne

A Soul to Keep: Duskwalker Brides: Book One Kindle Edition

by Opal Reyne

Available here:

Kindle https://amzn.to/3Duf0Tq

Paperback https://amzn.to/41EjEIp

Audible https://amzn.to/3ZKdPXo

Not my first foray into the monster fucking genre but certainly one of my best. The author originally wrote this for herself which I think gives it that extra bit of sweet spice. This is the story of Orpheus (a Duskwaker) and Reia (an outcast female) and their pairing.

Reia agrees to go with Orpheus somewhat willingly as an escape from her village. She hopes to run from him and become a Demon Hunter. She attempts her plan unsuccessfully, but her sharp mind keeps her alive. Both characters are deliciously flawed and end up suiting each other well.

The monster fucking sex is super-hot and I really related with how Reia had to come to terms with her own urges. I loved this book so much I bought the sequel. The first book is certainly stand-alone and each book in the series seems to be the same.

If you’re into MonsterFucking, I highly recommend this book – obviously as I’m writing about it lol.

Enjoy!

I bought this book with my own money, it was not an ARC copy, and I’m under no obligation from anyone to review this book.

Class listed here on The Cage!

Just wanted to give you a visual!