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Scalpel Kit | BDSM Doctor/Nurse Roleplay | Medical Fetish

Whether you’re looing for something to assist you with your blood play or generate a little more excitement with your Violet Wand, a Scalpel or Suture Kit can come in handy.

I got my first suture kit when I was incredibly involved in dog sports. If you’re out in the wilderness and you have a problem… it’s best if you have some tools to help you – so I got a surgical kit. Of course, as time progressed, I began to use it for purposes that were quite different from it’s intended use.

Here’s a quick tour of my kit. Enjoy!

Medical Kink or Fetish is extremely popular in the BDSM world. For the edgier player, this scalpel kit can come in handy and spark a lot of fun. Take a tour of the items in this kit and get a few tips along the way on how to use them. Sneak peek: you can use them with the Violet or Twilight Wand!

Kawaii Butt Plug wants to be inside you. Deep inside you.

Wondering what makes Dom/mes so hesitant to ask for aftercare?

Near the top of my list of questions I’m frequently asked, is the question that titles this writing. When you first discover BDSM you’re excited and of course, you want to meet other people to share new experiences. Often people are so exuberant that they rush right out and throw themselves at the first thing they find which often isn’t the best fit. These three tips will help you zero in on the areas that are most likely to be a successful fit for what you’re looking for.

Get Specific On Your Why

Why, specifically, do you want to meet people into BDSM? I hear you thinking “duh, Sadie! I want to do kinky things with people!” Of course, you do! The world of kink is gargantuan though so it really helps to narrow things down a bit. What is your primary goal overall? Consider the following list:

I want to meet people into BDSM

·        and hook up with them

·        to try new things without a deep commitment

·        and learn a lot more before I try anything

·        date them / for a committed relationship

·        to share ideas

·        to just talk

·        to just talk but online

Each one of those primary goals is going to direct you to a different area. If you go to a class on spanking with the express purpose of hooking up with people, you’re probably not going to have a lot of success. These are just a few of the goals, there are as many as there are people, so make sure you think a bit more specifically than just wanting to meet people into BDSM.

Start Your Search

Select your search terms and keywords based on what you want. Don’t forget to add your location, or target location if you are traveling or moving. “Near me”, your city, and your zip code are all terms that will get good results. General searches like BDSM websites turn up a wide array of results. Full disclosure, the results are full of everything from garbage to gold. Of course, one person’s garbage is another person’s gold.

A three-word search strategy can work very well. Choose one word from each bullet point and search away:

·        BDSM / Kink / Fetish

·        Hook up / Dating / Classes / Chat / Socials

·        Near me / zip code / name of city

For example: BDSM classes near me

Feel free to get creative or use as many search terms as you like.

Show Up

Once you’ve found a list of events, classes, or websites that match your interests put yourself out there. Attend a physical event when the pandemic is over. Attend a virtual event. Reach out to that person who is interested in being contacted. Once you know where you’re going, you actually have to do that hard work of going there. This is usually the hardest part, but once you’ve done it you’ll be glad you did.

If you don’t have success on your first try that’s ok. Get clearer on your why and search again. There literally is something for everyone all you have to do is find it, which can be a pain in the butt sometimes. Keep searching until you find a place that’s an excellent fit for you.

Good luck and enjoy every moment of the journey!

I’d like to gain a better understanding of BDSM academically and in brain chemistry. Discovering what types of actions produce what types of states in people and how I can recreate them to become a curator of amazing experiences.

I’ve spent a lot of time working on perfecting my impact play. Targeting accurately, controlling the pacing of the scene to take individuals further than they thought that they could go.

Now I’d like to spend time focusing on the mind and how that can enhance BDSM experiences.

2 kink skills I'll get better at: erotic hypnosis & playing with fear 

0 one thing to do less of: give time to people who don't support me

2 things to learn more about: the science behind kinking & different kink thought leaders/influencers

1 new kink to try: self micro branding!

#bdsm2021 #kink2021 #bdsmcommunity

So there I was watching the with ads video Texas Chainsaw Massacre when the first ad that popped up was for a kids' movie. The algorithm knows too much...

Reviewing an awesome short BDSM movie called "Marcy Learns Something New" by Omleto.

Review and link to movie found here:  

There so much I love in here from accurate teaching to a stellar portrayal of how Kink /BDSM / Fetish happens. It makes it look glamourous without stereotyping it.  

TENS electrode pad hack that can lead to better TENS orgasms!

Just a quick vulva sketch for my TENS electrode placement video coming soon!