Let’s talk about fidget toys. These small, unassuming gadgets have a bigger impact than they let on, and they’ve become an unexpected hit at my munches.
A munch can be nerve-wracking, especially if you’re new to the lifestyle and/or stepping out of your comfort zone. For some, even seasoned kinksters, social events like this can feel overwhelming. A lot of attendees tell me that they’re neurospicy. Tbh, I’m not quite sure what made me think of them but what better way to create a calm, welcoming vibe than a table full of
Convenient Icebreaker
When I got to the munch I spread them out all over the table and invited people to “self-sooth” with the toys. Ngl. I had already picked out the ones I wanted to play with. As an introverted, empathic munch host, this was really helpful! The fidget toys seem to work as icebreakers too. I’ve seen so many connections spark over a shared love of a particularly squishy stress ball or someone sharing cool stories of their fav fidget toys that they have.
It’s not just about keeping hands busy, though. Fidget toys give you permission to exist in a space, exactly as you are. They say, “It’s okay to be a little nervous, a little fidgety. You belong here.” And isn’t that what we’re all about?
Secret Stash
So now, I don’t just bring fidget toys; I stockpile them. I order a new batch almost every month. (Seriously, I have a stash that would make a you jealous.) If you’re coming to my munch, you can expect a table full of tactile delights waiting for you. Play with them, take one home, or just let them sit there as a comforting presence. They’re there for you, like we all are.
What’s your favorite fidget toy? Let me know in the comments!
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