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LaVieEnRose​(sub female){Learning } - It’s totally normal because we are human, and that’s just life.

Personally my level of jealousy has upped since I became involved in this lifestyle 😂 but mostly cause I feel like emotions run higher/stronger

Trying to just take a breath, recognise the emotion for what it is and depending on what I’m jealous of either just let it run it’s course or I try and analyse why I am jealous.

Milana​(sub female){Owned} - I agree it comes along with life, in general... Being human its a common emotion.

Lol, 😂 also I agree to that being true!!

& that is where I need the most work, learning to recognize such ♀‍🤦🏽

LaVieEnRose​(sub female){Learning } - LOL yeah like I try not be be a green eyed monster but I’m not good at sharing so just even thought of like another sub talking to my Sir makes me a little green 😂 I try and be reasonable obviously but what can you do 😂

It can be hard to recognise and it’s taken me a long time to realise it but now that I do I try and not be unreasonable...try...

HisAngel - I've only gotten jealous I think once in the 2 years I've been with my fiance lol. It wasn't anything he was doing we were at Mardi gras and because he was nice and handed her some beads this girl proceeded to try and be all over him. He looked like a deer caught in the headlights its funny now but not so much in the moment. I had been sitting down because my fibromyalogia makes it where I can't stand for too long at a time. But I got up and put myself between them and laid a big kiss on him and was like hey baby what's going on....her face was priceless....she left us alone after that. He told me later thank you for saving me haha.


I think it can be healthy when handled right, but it can also be dangerous if it's linked to trust issues. I trust my fiance I know he never would do anything like cheat on me. I wasn't mad at him it was just a moment of hey get your hands off my man because he is too nice to do anything other than try and hint at her to back off (she was drunk)

If that feeling does arise I try to remind myself that we are in this together, no random person who is going to get in between us. We've been though too much to let that happen. If I'm feeling insecure because of something I just approach him with it and we talk it out. ( I think I've been more jealous of his time with the PlayStation than an actual person haha.... Things that happen when you date a gamer)

Milana​(sub female){Owned} - haha, sometimes it is brought on by others, not so much as the direct person. Know he was glad you saved him from that!

Yes, trust issues stemming from past trama seem to play a major role in my own battle with jealousy, need to work on it.

That is amazing ❣ its wonderful you have such a beautiful relationship!! Wishing you all the best🙂

HisAngel - Thank you 😊 I've dealt with overly jealous relationships in the past. Their not fun to be on the receiving end of. Im so grateful to have found someone that we mutually respect and trust each other.

TNS​(dom male){TSS} -
#1 Do you think JEALOUSY is a healthy emotion? Why or why not?
Yes. it is something you are born with. that said if you let it rage within you it can be a bad thing.


#2 Is JEALOUSY more common in vanilla or BDSM relationships? Why or why not?

It is a human trait that every human has. Lack of Jealousy does not mean that you don't have it or you don't care. It means that through events in one's life or training they have learned to repress any negative emotions.

#3 What steps do you take on handling your JEALOUS ways?
I have ADHD which helps me in healing faster when it comes to any loss. but to stop it,, to begin with, is a different matter. When i was younger i was clingy. now i see myself happy to have someone or ones in my life that i can lean on for support.

Milana​(sub female){Owned} - I absolutely agree!

Good point, I can see that to be true as well...

My youth was toxic none the least which I am slowly... SLOWLY starting to recognize as a trigger I guess & learning to handle it. I'm glad you was able to come to your own terms of handling such & I take it as also doing well🙂

DaddyDrago​(dom male){LilAmethys} - Jealousy, through my lens, is an unhealthy response to our fears.
Normal? It absolutely can be. But it also doesn't have to be.
Learning to trust one's self is generally where jealousy can stem from.
Feeling like not enough. Or not measuring up to an unrealistic or imagined measurement from others.
When we learn to accept we are enough as we are, we extend trust to ourselves. Feel better with who we are. Jealousy doesn't have to take places a fear response. Because fear is about what we will lose. Or that we won't have that we want. When ultimately, what we truly want or what we will always own is who we are. The strength of our own self. Our value and worth.
Jealousy tells us to be afraid of what we could possibly lose. When ultimately, if we can lose something that our fears are triggered by it probably needs to go all the same. Even if we have a difficult time admitting such. Oddly, jealousy often detonates us and causes us to lose the very things we fear losing because of our jealousy. It is our bodies way if telling us to know our own value and worth and not give it out to those whom would take advantage of such.
Just my opinion anyways.
From someone who used to struggle violently with jealousy.

Milana​(sub female){Owned} - Your opinion is appreciated as well as welcomed 🙂 hope all is well.

I'm glad you was able to grow from your battle with jealousy, I do agree 100% it is based around fear followed by trust issues (for me it is anyways).

My own jealousy has been a battle & up until recently I've realized that it's something I need to get under control before anything gets ruined over nothing.

Litlegrl​(sub female){Dragon11} - I think that jealousy is a normal emotion. It's not healthy if all you see is jealousy. Ex: your SO has friends of opposite sex (or same, however that falls) and you get jealous constantly about it.
Funny enough, I've found myself less jealous in my poly dynamic than any other relationship. However, I think that is because I knew ahead of time that he is poly and that it wouldn't effect us.
The best way to overcome jealousy is with trust and time.

Milana​(sub female){Owned} - Thank you for your insight, yes I agree with time anything can change... As well as jealousy. ☺ hope you enjoy your Friday!!

Satindragon - I believe it to be a normal or natural emotion. However if left unchecked or not addressed can cause trust issues.

Over the years I discovered if you can take him he wasn’t worth having. I don’t share, I walk away.

Milana​(sub female){Owned} - I agree!! Mines stem from trust issues prior to anything I'm dealing with now, it now me learning how to deal with such. As I feel the same way, sometimes it is best to justvwalj away if nothing seems to change & the jealousy just lingers... Thank you! I hope you have a great day!! ☺

Milana​(sub female){Owned} - **just walk away** multitasking😆