I am enough

When growing up I found myself always serving. It didn't matter if it was at family events or at home. Men were put to lesser standards than the women. My brother would tell me that if I did his chores I would get the money for it. So I would do his chores and he would still get the money. I told him that he needed to pay me the money but said he had forgotten and spent it. I knew my brother though. I knew that he honestly had forgotten. But my emotions told me otherwise. I would always be less than him. I took care of him. He was my little brother. Whatever he needed I did it. You see serving people is part of my personality. That does not mean that I think low of myself. I actually have a high self esteem. But that only came recently when I accepted who I was. People took advantage of me because they know I like to serve. When growing up that made me feel less of myself. But you see without people who love to serve life would be full of only dominant people who like to take charge. Two very alpha dominant people can only be with each other for so long. That is why it is important to have subs. Subs live to serve it is who you are at your very soul. You are admired for that. You are cared for, valued, honored, the standards you have for yourself should be high. Very high standards. Standards ensure you will be used by those who truly respect you, care for you, honor you. When you think highly of yourself you are put on a higher pedal stool because the Dom had to work that much harder to earn your trust. And if your Dom worked hard they will value you more. They know you chose them as much as they chose you. You will know you have more in common. The relationship will go deeper, be more intimate, be exactly who you need to be with. Take your time to find the perfect Dom. The patience will pay off. I recently got this advice from another member and I wanted to pass it off to all of you. It was an honor to receive this advice and feel everyone should have it. Including the Doms out there. Don't just pick any sub, subs and Doms are a dime a dozen. But that special one is priceless!! So be patient and have higher standards for yourself and the one you are looking for.