I'm so afraid of drama. I despise that emotional side of people. I'm not dramatic in any way. I can be a brat but only to spice things up a bit.
Including an extra in our lives can open up the scene to drama if proper protocol isn't followed and respected between all those involved.
We still haven't made any concrete plans to keep her as our play partner. As much as we would enjoy having her with us now and again, there is that certain rule she needs to comply with before a decision is made.
Once she has done as we ask I will be sitting down with her, set rules, exchange ideas, talk expectations, and then a decision will be made. I'm his primary therefore if I'm not happy he won't be either. And the main thing that is needed, TRUST. If trust is not there, or if it is given, then broken, it can affect my dynamic with my Master.
If I was the open relationship type, or wasn't a true poly minded person it wouldn't matter. But for me to be in even a play relationship there are certain protocols that need to be taken into consideration. If it is too much for anyone who joins us in any way then they are welcome to say as much but we need those rules followed.
I don't think it is too much to ask for or expect.