Just cause

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - There shouldn't be... Not at all! I hear more and more of those dynamics and have such respect for them and hold them in high regard.... Being one with major little tendencies, I need a Daddy Dom. If I may, this would be an awesome Forum Post as well. You may get more insight there. 💕🌸💕

cherrypetals​(sub female){looking} - Thank you very much for your advice
And I'm happy to meet someone else who is also a little😊

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Personally, I think there is stigma in all areas of BDSM. I believe it stems from not understanding but also, because "one man's pleasure is another man's pain" sort of thing.

Children are sacred and anything that even HINTS at disrespecting/abusing/sexualizing children is reprehensible. That is where the not understanding comes in.

What people who AREN'T DD/lg kinksters do not understand is that it is NOT about pretending to be a child. It is about letting go of control of action AND thought. In a way, it shares that aspect with the Master/slave dynamic. The difference is the communication style and the reasoning of the participants. The M/s operate in the "control of action controls emotions" while the DD/lg dynamic operates in the "controled release of emotions controls actions".

I have found that Littles tend to require a safe environment and space to release their emotions, thus returning to them control of their behaviors. From what little I know (maybe TVS can chime in here), Slaves find their emotional release by doing the opposite...control of behavior puts their emotions back in line.

Really, it's all about control...the only difference is the form used to bring that control about.

OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} - I like that! How you regain control over your emotions. Some people need to yell and rage and rebel (brats) some need to turn off their brain and regress and draw pictures and color (littles) some need to put it all on the table and place it an order to feel less anxious (me) and some need to string someone up and whip them (sadists) plus many more! there are many mind sets and ways to reset your emotions. Something in motion stays in motion, so if you don't take steps to regain control, it will just continue to spin out of your hands. That looks different for everybody. I think people need to stop thinking that being a little/middle means being a child. There are extreme cases in everything, stop turning that into your opinion of the normal just because you don't want to waste anymore brain power on understanding that they all fundamentally want the same thing, just go about it different ways.

Bunnie - I think there’s two types of negative reactions to Littles... from those who have a stigma around age play/regression... and those who’ve simply experienced Littles who are annoying as all hell... because let’s face it... Little characteristics are pretty immature and can definitely rub people up the wrong way. I know for myself that I usually tend to seem to step on toes a lot more when my Little or Middle aspects are up and about. It’s ok to not be everyone’s cup of tea... I also know how much that thought can hurt when all we want is to be adorable and adored... but everyone has their preferences for people, just as you and I do. You’ll find your “tribe” :)

LongerJohnny​(dom male) - I agree 100% with SBD that there is a lot of misunderstanding with respect to BDSM in general. Especially DDlg, et al.

I gave up a long time ago trying to explain to non-kinksters how and why DDlg has nothing to do with being a child, especially one's own child, and all the horrid, evil things that would go with that. It's not surprising that they might not understand... when sadly some of our own can't even deal with it.

Perhaps it's those Daddy instincts in me (though apparently I missed something along away) because I wouldn't have used the word "stigma" about any of those. I had not observed it, and now that you have made me aware of it, It's frustrating and disappointing to find that some of our our own would treat others that way.

Having recently had some littles teach me more than I ever knew about ABDL (any Dom who claims that he can't learn anything from a little is a fool) I find that there is so much more of the little world than I ever understood, and I'm grateful for that. Fortunately, it is not that being a little (or anything else, as OraclePollon explained) is "such a weird thing" but because of the people who misunderstand and therefore assume that it is.

We all get to be our real selves, and fuck off anyone who says that you are wrong for it. You aren't. I would love to assure you that there are an inexhaustible amount of perfect Daddies and Mommies everywhere just waiting and hoping to find you. Unfortunately, nope. But there are some, and hopefully that will be some comfort to you.