MstrJ(dom male){~ENM~}

This one is NOT about food

*Ahem* Okay, so let's all take a deep breath and a small moment. I made this blog with the intention of making a post. Instead of creating a blog about ME, I made it with the sole intention of telling people about a small victory I achieved in an average everyday life experience.

So I'm here once again to say "Let's get this RIGHT". If you couldn't tell I enjoy food, so there will be moments where I share a mistake I made in the kitchen or a success. But that's not all I'm about.

I'm not a social media guy, I got rid of Facebook, didn't want instagram, said screw it to snapchat, refused tik tok and don't get me started on dating apps.... But I wanted to reach out and create something for myself and those around me who might gain some knowledge or better themselves from an experience I've had. (Yes, I still plan on talking about food. Just not the whole time.)

So Round 2, FIGHT!!!!

Get to know me

4 years ago. April 12, 2020 at 11:37 AM

Hi there and welcome! My name is Jonathan and I am glad I did some digging on the internet and found this website and this community.

I am recently single, about 2 months ago my wife and I separated. We had been together a total of 10 years, married for 5. I had found that I was drawn to the world of BDSM, from some of the articles and materials I read. In my last relationship we began to explore a D/s dynamic almost towards the end of our relationship and it was truly exhilarating. It was like finding an oasis in the desert. It brought an entirely new way of approaching life to me, and I found I was addicted. I've wanted to explore and learn all that I can as I'm still quite inexperienced for now. So I had made a determination. I want to live a dominant life, a life that embodies the act of commanding the space around me that is my dominion. I want to find peace and calmness in a world of pandemics, earthquakes, destruction and death. I'm very much working on me, how I view the world changes a little each day and I feel more confident in myself than I have in years. Except when I was a kid, I held nothing back and put everything out there and I didn't give a rip who saw or made fun or laughed. I was just doing something I loved and that was enough. I'm trying to get back into that headspace and I am making progress but Jonathan (kid version) still has me crushed at this point. It takes time and effort, and nothing WORTH gaining is ever EASY. So I am here hoping to learn more, hoping to make some connections with amazing people (I already have, thank you TheCage!!!!) and hoping to come out of this mess we call life just a tiny bit better than yesterday.

Also I feel the need to mention I am trying to become more involved in those around me, and unfortunately I caved and downloaded Tik Tok and I do have snapchat as well. Not that I use them or have any idea on how to use them... I mean it took me a few tries to even get this Blog right. I had also downloaded some dating apps but I got instantly frustrated with them! I just wanted to talk to some PEOPLE but no one responds! Which is why when I found this website of like minded individuals who actually have an interest in bettering the community, helping those with questions, actually taking 5 minutes out of your day to connect with someone else I was blown away! I'm so damn excited to be here, to learn, to communicate and grow. We all can learn from those around us we just need to keep an open mind.

Best wishes to all those this Easter! Whether you choose to celebrate or not have an amazing and wonderful day. #NailedIt

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Welcome...again...hehehe

4 years ago

MstrJ(dom male){~ENM~} - Thank you! I figured I would actually try and create a full on blog, not just a blog post haha.

4 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - I live in the blogs! We have parties and depending on who's blog it is, we swirve it off course and hijack it.

4 years ago

MstrJ(dom male){~ENM~} - That is hilarious! I also want to take a moment and thank you, I was reading through your blog on brats and I found a deep connection with what you had mentioned there. I would like to know more and am excited to see your next post about it.

4 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Thank you! That's wonderful to hear. If I may ask, was there something in particular that struck you the most?

4 years ago

MstrJ(dom male){~ENM~} - I guess it was that sense of looking for your home, with the turmoil that is inside all of us. I very much want to create a safe place for the people in my life, and the One that I choose will receive that more than anyone else. Well once they choose me and say yes to me that is.

But even the idea of being a brat because you love the mental chess game of challenging someone, that fight over how do I take control and put this brat in her place. I love to play chess, and there is no greater test than to try and figure out how best to handle someone being difficult.

But I literally have no experience with brats, my ex said she was bratty but it never really showed up in our dynamic. Honestly we didn't get very far into BDSM when our relationship ended. I mean we found what we liked and as we were about to explore more her needs changed and we were two different people. And it ended.

So I have been curious about brats and wanting to experience a part of that dynamic, but I'm also nervous because I really will have no clue what I'm doing when I find that person and how to deal with it. I keep hearing it's not easy to deal with brats as they challenge you, and I'm afraid that I might shut down and walk away. But I can't know until I am experiencing it, how I might handle that situation.

I'm probably not ready to handle a lot just yet, I have so much growing to do. But I would love to find someone that is willing to take a risk on me.

4 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Esv, have patience with yourself. Yes, deal with certain types of brats can be difficult, especially as a newbie. I would suggest staring clear of brats romantically for now. Interact with us social (there are MANY I "hang" with here and that way, you can study the board (chess board) and gain a perspective on how brats interact with Doms but also with each other, because once you figure out how a brat interacts with someone socially, you will be able to see the submission to YOU when in private.

For example, I am VERY different when I interact privately with someone I'm interested in or I'm close to. My friends can attest to the fact that in private, I am FAR less of a brat. Sure, there are shades of the Brattiness that comes out, but more often than not, I let down the defensive behaviour and brattiness and settle down.

4 years ago

MstrJ(dom male){~ENM~} - That's really good advice SBD, and for right now I am very much in an infantile stage of my journey with BDSM. I'm trying to embody a mantra of quiet, calm, confident and patience. Part of that is listening and observing as much as I can, and any insights you can offer into the mind of a bratty sub I will happily look at and evaluate.

I think we can all change a little bit based on the people we are around, it's our levels of comfort with that person. Someone you barely know, you put up the defenses because how are you to know if they are friend or foe? Do they truly intend good will and improvement in your life? Or are they merely there to take all your possessions and leave you with nothing alongside the road? You need to learn about them and make that determination yourself. It makes a lot of sense, and really I think we are all just looking for that person who we can show all of ourselves to and not be afraid of their thoughts, judgements and intentions.

4 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - " I think we are all just looking for that person who we can show all of ourselves to and not be afraid of their thoughts, judgements and intentions."

And THAT, right there, is D/s in a nutshell.....HOW we get to that place, well, it all depends on your kink.....but the goal is the same....in vanilla or in kink. We all want to find out heart's home.

4 years ago

Jack in the box -
Well said 👏

4 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - I can be brainy at times....I know..hard to believe since I hang with the Littles....lol

4 years ago

MstrJ(dom male){~ENM~} - I really agree, and honestly it's been wonderful to connect with people who all feel the same regardless of what kink you have. We can still support each other and our journey to find that special someone.

4 years ago

Jack in the box -
Welcome Jonathan

4 years ago

MstrJ(dom male){~ENM~} - Thank you! I appreciate the support this community has for its members, and I hope to become a form of support for those that have questions. I hope you have a wonderful day Jack

4 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Beware of Jack....he keeps trying to steal my Littles... :Pppppppppp

4 years ago

Jack in the box -
🙄 heehee

4 years ago

Jack in the box -
Thank you - and back atchya

4 years ago

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This one is NOT about food

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