Good morning Cage friends,
There is something to be said about the manner and way you hold yourself accountable as a Dominant. Many times over You will be watched by s types as they look for the measure of sincerity You express, the dedication and work You put in.
Actions do speak louder than words and when You yourself are not in alignment with Your words then at some point You will deviate from what you have said. It is only natural. As Dominants if there is a situation where You must traverse a space where You have been dishonest with Yourself(and perhaps the s type You are courting/speaking with/interacting around) then there will be a small misalignment between Your actions and words.
Part of it may be that You really wish to be in alignment with the words You've chosen, but You just arent there yet. That is why taking the time to invest in knowing Yourself, learning where You stand and where You direct Your Will is so essential. It is about knowing Yourself, doing the work for Yourself, and being consistent enough that despite the pressure and turmoil that life presents You remain anchored and steadfast focused on the direction You wish to go.
As a younger man inside of past relationships I did not have a clear vision for who I was.
I so badly wanted to have that, to be that, to show what I was capable of, but because I wasn't self aware, because I wasn't asking much of Myself, because I was pushed and pulled by life I did not have Mastery over Myself. My words and actions did not wholly align and plenty of times I saw Myself take missteps and do damage to Myself and those around Me. It was not My intention. I truly said the right words and I deeply believed them, yet I hadn't done the work in Myself to properly act on them.
Even now I still need to be vigilant to self assess and ensure I am in alignment with who I was made to be.
Just recently Mikayla had to approach Me. W/we were having a lovely day and yet I had made a comment that wasn't in alignment with something I had previously stated not 24 hours earlier. She came to Me and said "Master, I need to share with You something that is bothering me." 99% of the time I am very intentional with My word choice, I try to say what I mean and mean what I say.
I had just recently given Mikayla a reward, I had noticed the hard work she had been putting in and I had a strong desire to facilitate her success such that it grew more than she realized. Then in My haste I spoke the words "So I don't *have* to....."
That hurt her. That shook her a little bit. That was not in alignment with what I had just recently shared. She was a tad bit confused and had to come to Me in kneel and express that she was concerned. She needed to know the truth and the heart of the matter to ensure she was on the same page as I was, such that she did not hold the wrong expectations based on a miscommunication.
So she directed My attention back to those words, "So I don't have to". I took the time to listen to her concern and had to sit with Myself and evaluate the sincerity with which I had spoken those words. Had I said something in haste? Or was I at a position where I desired to be there yet wasn't ready Myself? W/we discussed and followed through the conversation and did the self reflection required to find out where I stood. I was able to clearly express where I stood, why I had wanted those things for her, and bring U/us back into alignment over those 5 words that had caused her concern.
My point is this. During O/our walk as the D type and leader I set the path W/we are on as one. The thing is clearly communicating O/our heading and ensuring that My household has the proper understanding and perspective to hold to the bearing I have set is vital.
Imagine walking hand in hand. If I have set My direction as true north at 0 degrees (or 360) if My slave has a heading at 1 degree or 359 degrees as W/we walk forward initially it may not make much of a difference. 5 steps, 10 steps, maybe even 25 steps nothing will inherently "show up". But if you continue walking forward and your D type doesn't realize They have set your bearing incorrectly after 100 or 1000 steps Y/you will begin to notice the strain of holding hands until Y/you can no longer hold on.
If You don't course correct eventually over time You will lose Your grasp and have them slip from Your fingertips. But here's the kicker. First ensure You are in alignment with Yourself. Take away the partner You desire and walk with Yourself. If You aren't in alignment with the direction and course You are heading You will walk Yourself straight into trouble. You will encounter a moment where You say something (and perhaps deeply believe it to be true) yet if You haven't done the work to establish Your Will and know Yourself You will end walk "walking away" from where You had intended to go unknowingly.
So I encourage You to do the work today to find Your own alignment, to find Your Will. To know Yourself and become an icon that shows the determination and wisdom to walk in alignment with Your own needs. To know exactly what You want, where You are going and then in turn how to properly direct Your s type on the path You have selected.
Walk in alignment. Come walk together. Set the pace, the direction and ensure You are followed well because You lead well.
To those that read My words today I thank you, I pray Y/you find guidance and walk in confidence knowing the direction You have set.
Mstr J
