Some believe a good sub must always agree with her dom and speaking her mind to him is a blamish in her submissiveness. Some believe only praising her dom and shyly saying ‚yes sir‘ to everything he says is a sign of a good sub. When I started my journey I tend to believe this and felt somehow at fault when I didn’t see an issue like my dominant did. This is also what some dominants tend to teach which I see today as a severe technical error when it comes to teaching a submissive.
With time in the lifestyle I understood most dominants, at least the ones who take their dominance seriously and follow protocols, don’t appreciate this form of submissiveness. These dominants don’t want his submissive to blindly repeat everything he says or hear being praised all the time. They look for submissives that engage with them, that give them input, that speak their mind and even disagree with them. In short they look for a relationship with a real person and not just someone who tells then everything they already know.
However speaking your mind and disagreement must always be voice respectfully. Full agreement is not a sign of submissiveness but being respectful is even at the times we are upset.
