Mutterings from the dark side

To follow up on my post from earlier this morning, I spoke about communication going both ways. A big thing that I think we all need to get around is to be honest about what Turns us on. We spend so much time beating around the Bush that we never actually get down to what gets are rocks off. When you reach that point with the person you're about to play with let them know what get you off would you like. Do you like being choked do you like being slapped you like being dragged around by your hair and forced. Guys tell the girls do you like to hear them scream do you like being forceful feel like being rough do you like watching them bounce up-and-down on you? By being honest and upfront it does 2 things. One at let you know if you should be with that person or not, if your kinks don't match up the name May be a great friend and a wonderful conversationalist. However they May not be right for Bedtime play. To a give you both a chance to go and with eyes wide-open and know where those lines are yes there's something to be said about mystery but in our lifestyle or violence and rough play often times go hand-in-hand with the mere nature Of BDS M It is better to be upfront about it so no one is hurt either physically or mentally . We now return you to your regularly scheduled madness