I think I blew it today. Someone who is not in a serious committed relationship should NOT talk about or make important decisions regarding their partner or potential partner and the direction of their relationship after an intense "O" and here is why:
1. The logical part of your brain basically shuts down during sex.
2. When you orgasm, your brain releases a surge of dopamine which helps us feel pleasure. It also creates a need in us for more.
3. Oxytocin is released during orgasm- which creates a sense of love and attachment and is responsible for that feeling of satisfaction and pure bliss you feel.
4. Having an orgasm stimulates your brain in the same way as doing drugs. You become addicted and can confuse the feeling of pleasure with a deeper connection that just may not be there (not that it won't be in the future, but seriously, what was I thinking !) When I say my Dom is my addiction it is true, but maybe not for the reasons I would want it to be true. These feelings aren't real, they are amazing, but should in no way be driving the bus!
5. After an orgasm, the brain releases hormones that make you feel happy. IT WON"T LAST! Not that it is bad, just don't go making decisions based on this feeling. It adds to the experience and is amazing, but again, I find myself getting in trouble by making decisions while the hormones are running rampant.
6. And here we get to my need to take a beat-- the brains of women continue to release oxytocin after they achieve orgasm. Ladies, we need to wait a few days, not a few hours, before making important relationship decisions. Let's face it, Sex makes us a little Cray Cray
So to my first Dom, my potential Dom, and any Dom I may have in the future...I apologize for what I have said in the past and what I will say in the future…’cause let’s face it, there is no way I’m giving up the mindblowing, toe-curling, whole-body spasmic sex that you give me.