Musings of a submissive

A submissive’s Rights

1. You have the right to be picky when choosing your Dom.  There are posers and abusers out there.  It’s okay to test his knowledge of BDSM,  ask about his training, what type of Dom he is, and ask for references from past subs...He is not your DOM yet.  A real Dom understands that trust is earned not given and will not guilt or manipulate you in order to get out of answering these questions.
2. You have the right to have a Dom who will make you feel safe and secure, not pressured or manipulated; one who creates a bond that is so strong, you can do nothing else but give him your mind and body.
3. You and your DOM should be on the same page when it comes to the following: relationship preferences such as polygamous, monogamous…, expectations of involvement (how much time is dedicated to the relationship).  Is this an ltr or are you just having fun?  You should also have clear guidelines and conditions regarding soft and hard limits.
4. You have the right to clarify or question what the Dom says or does when you are receiving mixed signals.  Be aware of conflicting stories or avoidance. This should trigger warning bells; listen to them.
5. You have the right to stop a session at any time with just a word.  The Submissive does not give up her power to say “no” when the situation becomes uncomfortable or dangerous.
6. You have the right to be you.  The Dom/sub relationship strengthens