It's important to me to have a s-type that knows her value. That's usually a process of it's own. It takes more than compliments and reassurance to instill worth. Those things work in the short term, but longer, the idea of self worth has to come from within. It something discovered, not given.
I think everyone has a hangup. Everyone has that one thing, or perhaps multiple things, that they shy away from showing or keep buried. Whether it's physical or mental, it dogs them, makes them anxious, and makes them constantly question themselves. It lowers their self-esteem and makes them wary of opening up and being exposed. I have found in many of the s-types I've encountered true exposure is their greatest fear.
A lot of us use masks. We use these false facades to distract and hide our true selves. It's important for me to find a way to navigate this wall, to get a peek at the feelings, desires, and insecurities that lie entrenched on the the other side. This isn't the type of wall that can be brought down with wrecking ball, it's the kind of job that requires a hammer, chisel, and time.
Communication is paramount. Openness and honesty help facilitate communication which in turn builds trust. I find each step gratifying and each lesson learned another badge of courage. It's not until we summon enough courage to look within ourselves that we can truly understand our place in a dynamic, a household, or even the world.
I want an s-type that is willing to learn herself. To allow me to guide them on her journey of self-discovery. I want to help her to experience pleasure and pain she didn't know existed. All the while, understanding the motivations behind each want and desire. I want them to know why they want to be wanted. I want them to want me for what I offer, and the stability I provide. I want them to burn with desire, not just for me, but also with their quest to better themselves. I want the best possible version they can submit to me. That's when I feel I have value. That's when I feel it's all worth it.
