This was inspired by PlusSzdPrincess’s blog post, “Saddened”.
Many believe because dominants are in control of the relationship, or are dominant at all, that We are less emotional, less weak.
This is a huge misconception! HUGE!
W/we are all Human. W/we all have insecurities about who W/we are and our dynamics. When I use “W/we”, I am referring to both Dominants and submissives.
As Doms We are just as much inside our heads wondering similar things that submissives do.
*Am I doing a good job with my partner?
*Am I meeting all their needs?
*Do they really feel that way about me, or are they putting on a façade?
*Do they really get pleasure from this or are they pacifying me?
*What do I do when I must punish them, and I do not know how to?
*Why did they flake on me?
*Am I ugly?
*Did I tell them too much or too little about myself?
*Are they afraid of commitment or just do not want to be with me?
Now, each of these questions come from a different situation, but they are genuine feelings that Dominants have. Most of which I am sure submissives have, or at least something similar to them only from the bottom outlook of it. But I bring this up because I see so many submissive support groups and completely love that they do that for each other.
BUT…. What most forget, or do not think about is that Dominants also need support. We need fellow Doms we can talk to and share information with and be able to rely on each other for support when We need it just as much as submissives do.
And this brings Me to My point, I want to reach out to all of You fellow Dominants to let You know I am here if You need someone to bounce ideas around with. I am here if You need a listening ear, someone You can confide in. Someone who will not shame You but to support You and understand the things you are going through because I have been there. We can support each other through good times as well as bad!
We don’t have to be competition for each other, We can be much more. We can be friends, allies, and support each other throughout Our journeys.
With all My love and support, don’t be shy. Reach out to Me anytime.
AK~
