House of Tanglewood Thoughts and Rants

Smessie - And I now think you are my new idol! 😁 Hilariously great post!

HisHunnyBun​(sub female){Taken} - Happens to all of us..

Had a Dom I haven't chatted with since I joined message me.
Simple message:
"Hello slut"

Really?
Don't see the word (taken) beside my name?
Or the fact my profile says "Friends only"?
Or how about my relationship status: "in a monogamous relationship "?

🙄🙄🙄

JustGreenie - Omg I love you!!!! Preach!!!

AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - *standing ovation for My Sister* .... didn't I tell you? Crazy huh?
This is what 50 shades of shit has done to the lifestyle that We use to treasure so dearly.
Kids running around playing games thinking they are part of the community that We and those that came before Us worked so hard to build.
Mind boggling! They have no clue how dangerous it truly is, they are going to get killed or kill someone. At the very least get hurt badly, and destroy someone else.

slaveMikayla​(sub female){MstrJ } - I sincerely hope that you, both of you, who are very new to this community know better than to judge it by the few. Every community of this kind attracts a myriad of personalities and types: some are more stressful than others. As a whole this community is unlike any other online kink community I've ever run across, for EXACTLY the reasons you mentioned. People here are serious, educated, knowledgeable, ethical, and above all else SUPPORTIVE. I've been at this not * quite* as long as you have, but a solid decade and a half.
Welcome to the community, glad you are here, but please hold off on judging the community until you actually get to know us... not the seagulls that flock around.

Tara Tanglewood​(dom female) - I appreciate your response. Of course I dont judge the community based off a few (dozen) idiot ppl who are completely clueless. I love your seagull analogy. quite apropo. I was literally bombarded by dick leading kink messages. Like Hello??? Real Person over here!!! I want to educate ppl in this lifestyle that I love and live. So that this kind of thing doesnt happen. pipe dream I know as there will always be ppl who act ridiculously.

AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - We are not speaking about those that are respectful or educated, clearly. We are not judging the community of this site as one person. We are merely commenting on those that have emailed Us. I think you took that too personal.
I have met some wonderful people in the chat rooms. I have also enjoyed many of the blogs.
But those that have emailed Me personally, have no education or manners.

slaveMikayla​(sub female){MstrJ } - Correct, because you are still an unknown quantity. It takes time for people who have skin in the game and a brain worth knowing between their ears to get to see who you are, and what you are about.
Nothing personal at all. Just offering a bit of insight on the community. Your own initial blog I, and a few other REALLY GOOD people reached out to personally welcome you. " what did i tell you? Crazy huh?" Sounds an awful lot like saying some pretty negative things about a community that has NEVER failed to have my back for the better part of three years in a way no community ever has before. I hope, in time, you both come to love and appreciate the people of the cage as well.... instadoms and nerds with hormones are just part and parcel, the necessary gnats that come with every picnic.

HisHunnyBun​(sub female){Taken} - Luckily for me I've only had
2 encounters of said "insta Doms"

One wasn't even a Dom!

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - TVS, I can see how their words may have appeared, but something tells me that in this instance, it is a case of argot. I think the "crazy, right?" Is part of a larger conversation. I have a hard time believing that it was anything other than "isn't the insta-dom flood crazy?!"

Sister, in this instance, I think you might have jumped the gun just a little in defense of a community that you love. AK would NOT be posting blogs AND have invited her friend here if she just wanted to insult the community as whole.

But I am human and can be prone to mistakes so.please take it as just my opinion.

AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - Babydoll is spot on. The larger conversation I had with Tara outside the site was about the crazy emails that I was receiving. I told her she had to join the site because of how great everyone is in chat, and that this site reminded me of alt.com before it was turned into a porn site. Which I loved alt. It was one of the first sites I started out on. I actually got mad at my friend who introduced me to this place because I’m already addicted. Another reason why I joined was because this place offers so much more than fetlife. I enjoy fet because it’s a lifestyle site. This site offers so much more than fetlife does though, and the only thing fet offers that the cage doesn’t is event listings.

This is why I said, “I think you took that too personal”. Which I can understand. People have attacked my favorite play spaces before, but my reaction normally is to ignore. Because attacking back, just causes drama. Besides, if someone didn’t like a place so much, then they aren’t going to stick around long. They wouldn’t invite others to join.

AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - Let me correct that, you have event listings, they just aren't for my area.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Rotfl....I'm glad you found them because I was like *holds finger up* "um..."

AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - LOL I did. But there is none that I can find for my area at all. Which really surprises me. I'm in the Bay area. The mecca of BDSM at the moment.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - How odd.....there might be a thread in the forums, but I wouldn't know. I've never even been to a munch.

Sasa​(dom female) - With all due respect. Everywhere are a few people we don't like. If a homeless whistles or someone unpleasant wants to talk to me, is that bad? No, it's still a compliment ... unwelcome, but you can break it down on this. Is it disrespectful? Yes sometimes without a doubt. Had someone very interresting done the same thing ... it would not be an insult, but a way to start a conversation or to put someone in their place without completely interrupting anything. Let's be patient if we get unwanted attention and let's avoid the term "fake" just because of some dreamers. I simply wish a few would read the profile before writing, but so what.

AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - Yes I agree everywhere you go you might have this same issue. However, this is the first lifestyle site I have come to and been bombarded by so many overnight with as little knowledge of what this lifestyle is all about, or how to act properly in first emails. This is due to the influx of newbies being overwhelming to the number of people who are already involved with the community. So much so, that we can’t keep up with enforcing the education that is required to be a meaningful part of the community of this lifestyle.

LaVieEnRose​(sub female){Kintsugi} - Maybe I’m the outlier here but seriously the first week I was here it was mind blowing the spam in my inbox of Doms who were hoping this newb would drop to her knees and submit. I’ve seen similar posts to this by subs and it’s a bombardment of awww it’s okays!

So I agree with AK and Miss Tanglewood, I wish people would take a moment to actually read a blog or two and cop a clue.

This doesn’t mean this isn’t a great community, I’ve had wonderful support and made some great friends but there is definitely an influx of people who don’t have a clue and are read to claim you after like 2 days and a handful of conversations.

Tara Tanglewood​(dom female) - I appreciate all of your responses here and value your opinions. I was merely releasing some steam over the bombing of My inbox here with inappropriate messages. I should have balanced this post a little better by also indicating that I have met some wonderful ppl in My short stay here. I do look forward to getting to know the community here better as I suspect there are some fantastic individuals to learn about!

HisHunnyBun​(sub female){Taken} - Luckily the # of good people here outweigh the # of bad people.

Heck I was considered one of the fake ones.
All because I'm very vocal here and new to BDSM.
Hypocritical of the insta-Doms to call me a wannabe..
😂

heartbrokengirl​(sub female) - Sorry you had that experience!
Happens a lot unfortunately. People that have clearly stated there preferences or that they are taken or owned still get messages that don't reflect the great attitude and wonderful people of this community.
Vent and release steam, its good for you! haha better to vent in then get frustrated or leave
glad you found the good people on here!

Jack in the box -
I do apologize for the dregs of my gender - welcome Ms Tara. ⚘