I just read somebodies blog post on here it dissapeared as fast as it came up, But it got me to thinking about how i deal with things in this lifestyle.
First and foremost i set out a given set of basic rules that any sub i am in a relationship must follow. And i put these out there pretty quickly into said relationship. One of which is that if you are upset about something you give me your safeword and we talk about it, we switch off from out Dom/Sub relationship and we talk as human beings.
In all the years i have been in this lifestyle i have never once had an argument with my sub, Of all the subs i have had not one of them ended because of an argument or a breakdown of the trust that we built up.
I don`t know how it is with other Dom`s/Domme`s wether you use rules but i do believe putting these rules in place straight away makes a hell of a difference.
Of course if my trust was broken the relationship would be over, this whole lifestyle lives and dies with trust if it`s broken or not their at all then it will never work for either a Dom or a Sub to break this trust and air their problems in public or to others is a no-no, You should always talk to your significant other first no exceptions, Talking is essential everything can be worked out by just talking especially if you have the safeword rule in play.
I don`t know if i have truly made a point here as such but rules do work if you use them correctly and it works online or off trust in one another and you will always get to the correct solution even if that solution isn`t always the one you want.