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I have written a blog on line for many years at TheEroticist.Com. (Lucky to get that Domain.) It is currently going through housekeeping with a new Theme, but it is still available for viewing.

As an introduction, I thought, over the next few days I might port over some of my earlier posts from my main. When I do get inspired to add a new one, I will probably post there and copy here. Please feel free to comment.
1 year ago. February 26, 2021 at 4:46 PM

I want to talk about a kiss.

As I am a heterosexual man, I will talk from my point of view but it can be between any two people.  Understanding that, close your eyes, quiet your mind, breath, and let your mind remember.  Remember the smell of her, her breath, the warmth as you approach her mouth, how her body feels and moves within your arms, the first touch of her lips, how those tiny muscles move as you lightly touch her lips with yours.  All your attention is right here, right at the point of touch.  All your senses are alive at this moment, at this point of touch, the warmth of her, the smell of her, the taste, movement, sounds and REALITY of her.

I want you to remember how she reacts to your movements; does she open at the touch of your tongue?  Is there a deeper breath or a sound as you move into her?  How does she RECEIVE your kiss?  Does she confirm your actions, does she submit to them.  Because that is what it is all about.  You are kissing her.  She is receiving your kiss.  You are acting upon her and she is showing you by her sounds, breath, and movement that she is accepting your kiss.

Now obviously, this action, this acting upon and receiving acceptance can go both ways and can even change back and forth in the midst of a kiss, but my point is that this kiss, and in my opinion all human sexual activity comes in this form, one person acting upon the other and the other accepting that action.    I will go a step further and say it is my belief that all forms of human sexual activity have this element of one person dominating the activity and another allowing it or submitting to that dominance.  It is play, back and forth, tumbling above and below, taking action, being acted upon, taking control, giving up control.

OK, OK, I can hear all the chairs suddenly move back as the human rights activists rise to their feet in indignation.  “HA, the male Dominant forcing women into SUBMISSION.”   Ah, well, I kinda like that, but what I need comes when it is NOT forced, when my partners willingly allow it, choose it, and desires it from me, for my Dominance can go only as far as the woman is willing to submit.  Ever try to French kiss a girl who does not want it?  It is a good way to get your tongue bit and a great way to end a relationship.

Dominance can only go as far as the submission allows, no further.  LOL, so who has the power, Buckie?

The Eroticist

slaveMikayla​(sub female){MstrJ } - " I will go a step further and say it is my belief that all forms of human sexual activity have this element of one person dominating the activity and another allowing it or submitting to that dominance. It is play, back and forth, tumbling above and below, taking action, being acted upon, taking control, giving up control."

Absolutely agreed. My ex Master (I know You are **not** a fan) actually took this concept and ran with it to say that for Him, certain sexual activities were absolute indicators of the health of the relationship. The reaction to the subconscious could NOT be hidden when engaged in these activities, and thus were what He sought to keep a watchful eye on the health of the dynamic with His partner.

Would You say that there is an equivalent for the submissive side to watch? Signs in the kiss which she should focus on the way You focus on HER side?

~Faith
1 year ago
Arach - Interesting comment. I would say at first that each partner in a relationship or in the broader D/s or M/s family has a responsibility to bring up any observation they may have on the health of the dynamic. I will post my thoughts on how a right of the slash (rots? LOL, that brought a laugh.) might best bring up their concerns to their (Lots, LOL) Dominant or Master. But as to your particular reply, (and I would love to know the "certain sexual activities") I would agree that the more subtle observations should be noticed.
1 year ago
slaveMikayla​(sub female){MstrJ } - Rots and Lots.... hmmmmm.... ^_^
Yes, we have talked about how clear, concise, explicit communication is necessary from both. Yes yes, me concise... never!
"and I would love to know the "certain sexual activities" ... oh for the love of Mike! *hides under all of the blankets, pillows, and couch cushions* ... His specific belief was that anal sex was a fantastic and immediate way to tell the emotional state of the receiver. That it was an impossibility to hide the emotional state, or in your EXACT wording "receptiveness". This was something we worked on, and I wrote about *cough* a year and a half ago. The fact that darn if the man wasn't right that my emotional state was absolutely and necessarily clearly determinable by my ability to use what a certain other blog renamed "Gandolff" today. *LOL* I found out through things he taught me that I could absolutely tell my emotional well being by how easily I could (or could not) tolerate that type of play. It was very much a matter or "receptiveness". Receptiveness to him, to the concept of us, when all was not right in the world that was my first clue.
1 year ago

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