I said it before, I'll say it again: in all things there is balance.
Strength isn't given. It earned. You aren't born with it. You don't 'just have' it. You don't get it for free.
Physical strength comes from going through the process and the pain of stress and struggle. You lift weights. You run. You sweat. And you get stronger.
Strength of the heart is no different. Emotional strength is no different. Stress and struggle builds strength.
Everyone here has a battle they fight. Everyone has a wound that they care for. So this blog post is for everyone here:
Sometimes it gets to be too much. Sometimes you have to let go and ask for help. That's ok. If that's where you are right now I'm going to say to you what was said to me last night. And I want you to know that you can come back here and re-read this any time you need to. You ready? Here it it:
You are loved.
You are wanted.
You are needed.
You are never alone.
Focus on the things you know you can do, not the things you can't change.
Just because you haven't succeeded YET doesn't mean you have failed. It means you have survived. It means you have found another one of the ways not to do it. Thomas Edison once said that he found a thousand ways NOT to make a lightbulb. Those thousand 'failures' aren't why he is remembered in the history books. The one success - attempt #1,001 - that's what he is known for.
So when life gives you lemons, squeeze lemon juice in life's eyes and tell life to go fuck itself because you hate lemonade.
I've been through worse, harder, and far more painful things than this. They didn't kill me. They made me. They are the things that give me the strength to be who I am. They are the things that made me a Dom. This isn't going to kill me either. No way. Nice try life, almost had me for a second there... but it's going to take a lot more than this to get me. I'm a Dom motherfucker.
(And for the record: this applies to subs too. It takes an incredible amount of strength to truly surrender yourself to another person. That's why we (Dominants) value that true submission so highly. So this is for you too.)
So go. Don't give up. Embrace failure a thousand times if that's what it takes. And know this: if you ever start to think that you're alone, trying to push an immovable boulder up an impossible mountain, just look to your left or your right. You'll see me. I'm pushing on it to.
We got this.
