FLR Compromises VS hard limits
Being in a relationship for at least 8 years . . . it gives one time to explore and test things . . .
Warning 1: I am a blunt open book, feel free to ask me any questions, but I may NOT give you the answer you want to hear.
Warning 2: If I seem I’m being too be difficult with you
1. It’s because I’m over cautious.
2. I have either a weird feeling about you
3. I feel bad that I am just not into you and I don’t want to sound mean.
Warning 3: Please do not comment my weight, health or sexual issues: no asking for naughty pics, please. (I also am NOT seeking naughty pics. I rather see your face or chest.)
Compromises
There are a few things I will work with. . .
· At one point I was into long term chastity, but after research, I have learned that it can cause damage to the male’s prostate. I am NOT into causing pain or damage. I will have my future submissive boyfriend chances to earn release. The thing is with such release . . . I need something out of it. (It will be a date night, in which neither one of us cook, maybe shopping, or bath or semi-romantic thing for me. I want to be treated like a queen, because if you get enjoyment and release, I should be able to have fun too.)
· I am into light bondage. However this do NOT mean all of the time. (Bondage is a sometimes thing, because straps and cuffs (even ties) and they can cause marks from moving back and forth.)
· I like a guy begging for things maybe it’s to make your favorite meal or get your favorite video game or to get off. I rather have compliments to me than my submissive kneeling. (A kneeling sub with a collar, does NOT do much for me.)
HARD LIMITS
Internet wise
· No Kik. No snapchat. No whatsup. No Skype. (It leaves one big chatting app open, and if you can figure it out maybe I will give my screenname: if you figure it out and ask me nicely. Note: I will not give it out if there is NOT connection between us.)
· No naughty cam (I cannot orgasm without pain, so why would I be interested in “playing” online. Note: I prefer pictures of your face, maybe your chest, not of cocks. Cock pics do NOT turn me on.)
· I am NOT directing you online when to cum and when not to.
· I am NOT seeking an online-long distance relationship (I don’t mind chat with Q &A, but I cannot travel nor can I host.)
· I do not other countries for relationship (only friendly chat. Please do NOT get desperate, it’s a turn off. If I tell you I’m not interested, please just move on.)
· No minors (I keep getting emails from minors, if you are under 21 please do not message me)
· I will NOT give out money, look at amazon lists or Itune cards. . . (I will NOT give into those scams.)
· I am NOT into older guys who wives who had left them or died, and they need someone to “take care” of their kids. I’m sorry for your lost, but I am NOT into kids. (If you are “real” I hope you find love and they get along with your kids, but that is NOT me.)
· No Humiliation or Blackmail (blackmail is illegal)
· Those who simply don’t accept “No,” or my nice denial for an answer.
Physical Things I am NOT into
· Bathroom play (I do NOT like toilet play, no human toilet, urine and scat need to stay in the porcelain toilet)
· Airplay (I will not choke or be choked to get off. I appreciate my breathing. I have sleep apnea I can lose air naturally.)
· I am NOT poly. (I wanted to try, but I cannot I am monogamous (one on one.)
· There is a difference between slave and submissive boyfriend (I do NOT like the term slave; to me, slave means you have no rights at all. Submissive boyfriends means you have opinions, and I will listen to them, but I get the final say. I seek to do what is best for both of us.
· No married or taken men (if you are married or taken, please seek someone else. I am NOT or will I ever be the “other” woman.)
· Guys 18 to 24 (They are still trying to find themselves and what exactly that they want. (I also do not understand emoji’s or most of the millennial things. Age: 18-20 (Even though I don’t drink, I will NOT illegally date someone who can’t even buy a drink. Go to college or at least hang out with some college people and get some life experience.)
· No one under 18. (I don’t care if you are 17 and 11 months, please leave me alone.)
· No guy over 49 (My parents are in their 50’s and I do not want a “parent” for a boyfriend. “Oh dear, I don’t think that is a good idea.” They also have a higher chance of having kids, even grown. I do NOT want to be a stepmother or a regular mother.)
· No guys with kids or who want kids. (I do NOT to the stepmother. I want to write, cuddle and have cats, NOT kids.)
· Please do NOT seek me for session training or sex sessions.
· I will NOT submit to someone. I’m a dominant. I like to be in control. (I do not like dealing with****, pushy men. I don’t mind confidence, but if they guy thinks a woman should be under him then seek some submissive, gullible woman, but that is NOT me. My ex had me control the budget, menu, and most dates and activities. I do NOT spend frivolously. I am very practical, and I try to make sure everyone gets what they need and if anything leftover what they want.)
· No culkolding (I am monogamous, and not into sex)
· NO extreme kinks: Humiliation or Incest or dehumanizing/degradation or Age play or Lil or Masks or Latex or Medical or Cross dressing or Sissies (I’m not into cross dressing. 6. I do NOT wear make-up or heels. I hate to dress up. I have very curvy and it’s hard to find a decent dress.)
· Extreme pain (I’m NOT into pain at all, I do NOT even like spanking. I am into pleasure if and when I could ever enjoy it.)
· Not using safe words
· Cocky men (who think they are better than me, I’m not a girly-girl or extreme domme, I like to control, but I’m not into the kink, this doesn’t make me less of a dominant or a woman. . . I do not mind a confident submissive boyfriend, but I am NOT into cocky guy. Cockiness brings out the negative parts of a person and puts others down.)
· These who do not take “No.” as an answer. (There are over 6 Billion people in this world, I will NOT be interested in all of those interested in me. I’m know not all of those are into me that I find interesting.) Please just accept my “no” or “I’m not interested,” and move on.
· If you are NOT into cats, then please move on.
Note my top ten limit deal-breakers (if you are any of these, please seek elsewhere.)
1. Men who are taken, married or just want sessions (no one night stands or your idea of cam fun)
2. Men who have or want kids (I’m not into kids, I want cats)
3. I’m not into smokers or heavy drinkers
4. Men under 24 or over 45
5. Slave who don’t want to be treated humanely (I’m NOT sadistic)
6. Those into pain (again, I’m NOT sadistic, I’m not even into spanking)
7. Cross dressing or sissies (I want my submissive boyfriend to be a guy)
8. Bald guys (It has to do with my PTSD, I’m also not into extreme facial hair, I just like the occasion 5 o’clock shadow.)
9. No super young inexperienced virgins or doms who want to see if they can be submissive (I’m not the one for you.)
10. Non-readers (I’m a writer, and I need my submissive boyfriend to be about read and comment on my work.)
