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Re: Red flags? Green flags?

Green flags for me:
1. Good communication skills with accurate grammar and spelling
2. Wit and banter - double points for cultural knowledge
3. Intrigue - profiles, messages and comments that are u ...

Sat Oct 30, 2021 6:14 am • 48 Replies • 16472 Views

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Red flags? Green flags?

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What do you want as a dominant?

Would I be so bold as to say that the essence and strength of D/s is grounded in clear sight and the stripping of ego?And both parties have this unwavering clarity and belief in the other?

With thi ...

Sat Oct 30, 2021 5:46 am • 34 Replies • 14530 Views

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What do you want as a dominant?

[quote="DaddyDrago"]

Thank you! Your expression is beautifully honest and insightful.

Ask and receive - I feel wholesomely (not a word but sounds great) informed and your words affirm some key i ...

Fri Oct 29, 2021 7:57 pm • 34 Replies • 14530 Views

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What sets you free?

Newfound awareness and wisdom.

Connections that harness the beautiful balance of similarity and difference and grow to be much, much more - almost self-perpetuating.

Stripping away the things th ...

Fri Oct 29, 2021 7:22 pm • 8 Replies • 4088 Views

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What do you want as a dominant?

I would love to see more responses from doms, the more insight into the intricacies of practice would be lovely.

Perhaps submissives are generally more active on the forums and blogs?! I see many d ...

Fri Oct 29, 2021 6:31 am • 34 Replies • 14530 Views

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What do you want as a dominant?

@Morgein
Is that what you are doing? Adding to the knowledge base of the community? Your methodology is quite interesting.

The reality is you and I could continue to derail the conversation like ...

Thu Oct 28, 2021 10:46 pm • 34 Replies • 14530 Views

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Poison ☠

Shame cycle. The shame cycle equates behaviour with identity and perpetuates feelings of self loathing, which then widens the desire to fill the void - quick fix of dopamine makes it less painful.

Sat Oct 23, 2021 3:53 am • 15 Replies • 10610 Views

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Poison ☠

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Red flags? Green flags?

I should mention that written expression is important to me personally. I am a slow processor; it's how I learn about the world, and in an online world, it's an indication of their way to be in the wo ...

Thu Oct 21, 2021 3:37 am • 48 Replies • 16472 Views

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Red flags? Green flags?

I am interested in gathering some data. I do not want a circular political debate on the semantics of 'real' or 'fake' subs/doms; but rather, it would be nice to see how people vet based on individual ...

Wed Oct 20, 2021 8:05 am • 48 Replies • 16472 Views

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Letting go/not holding grudges vs sweeping things important under the rug. What's the difference?

Avoidance vs Reactive Aggression vs Acceptance

For my sanity and wellbeing, I choose acceptance.

But sometimes I choose oppositional defiance and passive aggression to deal with idiocy... Then I ...

Wed Oct 20, 2021 2:26 am • 20 Replies • 8249 Views

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Letting go/not holding grudges vs sweeping things important under the rug. What's the difference?