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Early Days / your Process

Expressing likes, dislikes, and limits prior to a BDSM scene (preferably not during) should not be considered "Topping from the bottom" though I am sure some people do.

Thu Apr 23, 2026 2:28 am • 10 Replies • 1231 Views

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Steellover

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Maledom

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Early Days / your Process

Training? Idk?

I think "Training" depends on what level of protocol you are looking for in the relationship- strict, 24-7 lifestyle slave, or more casual. Because, even if I was in a completely non-kink, vanilla re ...

Fri Mar 27, 2026 2:49 am • 6 Replies • 1058 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Training? Idk?

So Who Pays: First Meets

And I concur. One way for a man (or a woman in search of a female dominant) to show genuine appreciation for their queen to-be, goddess to-be, Mistress-to-be, or whichever title they prefer, is to pi ...

Fri Mar 27, 2026 2:41 am • 16 Replies • 1975 Views

Author

Steellover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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So Who Pays: First Meets

My personal take is rooted in old school chivalry and dating ettiquite; that being, the male sub always pays because tradition and chivalry demand it and the female domme expects it. In your case, if ...

Wed Mar 25, 2026 2:41 am • 16 Replies • 1975 Views

Author

Steellover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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So Who Pays: First Meets

Whar is....?

The best thing about it: The bond that comes from servicing someone else's needs, and making them happy. Having her be direct and firm, letting her make the first move, not having to "guess," or ass ...

Fri Mar 13, 2026 2:52 am • 5 Replies • 727 Views

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Steellover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Whar is....?

Can't seem to meet a dominant women

That's easier said than done, for some people who live in cities such as Boise, Salt Lake City, or some of the mid-west and south, where people tend to be more sexually conservative, and any BDSM scen ...

Thu Feb 12, 2026 4:22 am • 37 Replies • 6586 Views

Author

Steellover

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Femdom

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Can't seem to meet a dominant women

Inflation

I thought it was about the cost of groceries. Beef Scrotum is up to $8.95 a pound.

Wed Feb 11, 2026 4:02 am • 13 Replies • 2575 Views

Author

Steellover

Forum

Fetish

Topic

Inflation

Re: Is this a kink or just D/s in general?

One thing I've realized about myself in terms of D/s relationships is I love it when my sub shares her thoughts and feelings about our dynamic, relationship, play. I like it for several reasons, one i ...

Tue Feb 10, 2026 3:38 am • 16 Replies • 2139 Views

Author

Steellover

Forum

Generally Speaking

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Is this a kink or just D/s in general?

Be safe out there friends

This is downright scary; I wonder first of all, how many hotel owners are complicit in this and if so, whether they can face prosecution? And specifically in the United States, how prevalent is it? I ...

Sun Feb 08, 2026 2:55 am • 4 Replies • 1034 Views

Author

Steellover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Be safe out there friends

Paid Dominatrixes

Well, it's not so much that they are "looked down on;" it's not that simple. A lot of it is that they aren't upfront or honest about their goals; that being Findommeing is their first and foremost ki ...

Wed Feb 04, 2026 4:14 am • 12 Replies • 1555 Views

Author

Steellover

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Femdom

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Paid Dominatrixes